Learn to Say No, Set Boundaries, Stop People Pleasing, and Live a Fuller Life (How an Organizational Approach to No Improves your Health and Psychology)
In No Will Set You Free, New York Times bestselling author Michael J. Tougias uses a combination of research, personal stories, and proven methods to empower readers to take back their lives and control their own time again by learning to say “no.” This informative, self-help-style book encourages you to discover and follow your true desires, find more time to invest in those you love, and pursue your real interests.
In No Will Set You Free, New York Times bestselling author Michael J. Tougias uses a combination of research, personal stories, and proven methods to empower readers to take back their lives and control their own time again by learning to say “no.” This informative, self-help-style book encourages you to discover and follow your true desires, find more time to invest in those you love, and pursue your real interests.
We’ve all been taught to seize the moment and say yes without considering the downside. No Will Set You Free empowers you to take back your life and control your own time again.
Be happy to just say “Hell No!”. No, thank you. Maybe some other time. “No” can come in many shapes and sizes, yet saying it can be difficult. We may think it’s selfish but this simple word is necessary to thrive in life. This informative, self-help-style, learn to say no book helps you discover and follow your true desires, find more time to invest in those you love, and pursue your real interests.
Learn to say “No” finally. Saying no can be hard. Really hard. Author Michael J. Tougias understands. As a former people-pleaser himself, Michael wields a combination of research, personal stories, and proven methods to help us understand our actions and stop saying yes. Through his witty rapport detailing his own setbacks and triumphs, we learn how to stop people-pleasing and how to, ultimately, honor our authentic selves.
Inside No Will Set You Free, you’ll Find:
Studies that help us understand our urge to say yes and how to learn to say no
Personal stories and anecdotes about the journey to “No”, how it relieves stress, and leads to a more productive life
Steps, tips, and tricks to control your life through the power of No
If you liked Boundaries; The Art of Saying NO; or Set Boundaries, Find Peace; you’ll love No Will Set You Free.
“Tougias sees a ‘beauty of no;’ by setting boundaries one can zero in on what is important. For him, that means more time for his family, his health, his hobbies of bike riding and being in nature and writing.” —MassLive
“I don’t know anyone who won’t benefit from this book. We all struggle to say no, and when we fail to do so, we sacrifice things that would be better, or simply more enjoyable, uses of our time. No Will Set You Free offers smart, interactive solutions to help you get better at saying no while minimizing hurt feelings and maintaining relationships. It’s a punchy, practical, indispensable guide.” —Vanessa Bohns, PhD, professor of Organizational Behavior at Cornell University and author of You Have More Influence Than You Think
Author Bio
Michael Tougias is a New York Times Bestselling author who has earned critical acclaim and literary awards for his 30 bestselling non-fiction narratives. Many of his books have been published by Simon & Schuster, St. Martins Press, Henry Holt, and Public Affairs . He co-authored the book, The Finest Hours, about a daring rescue of thirty stranded sailors by the U.S. Coast Guard off the coast of Cape Cod. Disney has released a major motion picture of the same name, starring Chris Pines and Casey Affleck. His latest book Above & Beyond: JFK and America’s Most Dangerous Spy Mission (April 2018) received a starred review from Booklist which said “The writing is superb.” It was also selected by the MA Book Award as one of the “Ten Best Books of the Year.” Tougias has written for over a hundred magazines and newspapers including The New York Times, USA Today, Boston Globe, and many more. He is a sought after speaker who has given keynote lectures in almost all fifty states.
Table of Contents
Contents
Author’s Note
Introduction
Why We Say Yes
No to Group Pressure—At Any Age
The Day I Learned the Beauty of No
When to Lean Toward Yes
Woman and No
Impulse
Easy No’s: Creating More Time for You
No and Your Children
Careful Use of No with Your Spouse and Relatives
No and Your Health
No Without Saying No or The Art of Taking a Pass
No at Work
No to Negativity
A New Take on Failure
The Three P’s: Perfectionism, Procrastination, and Patterning
No is Not Selfish
No and Negotiations, Operating Your Business, or Managing a Department
No to Fear and Worry
No and Your Money
When You Are the Requestor
Historic No’s and No’s of Conviction and Consequence
Some Short No’s
We’ve all been taught to seize the moment and say yes without considering the downside. No Will Set You Free empowers you to take back your life and control your own time again.
Be happy to just say “Hell No!”. No, thank you. Maybe some other time. “No” can come in many shapes and sizes, yet saying it can be difficult. We may think it’s selfish but this simple word is necessary to thrive in life. This informative, self-help-style, learn to say no book helps you discover and follow your true desires, find more time to invest in those you love, and pursue your real interests.
Learn to say “No” finally. Saying no can be hard. Really hard. Author Michael J. Tougias understands. As a former people-pleaser himself, Michael wields a combination of research, personal stories, and proven methods to help us understand our actions and stop saying yes. Through his witty rapport detailing his own setbacks and triumphs, we learn how to stop people-pleasing and how to, ultimately, honor our authentic selves.
Inside No Will Set You Free, you’ll Find:
Studies that help us understand our urge to say yes and how to learn to say no
Personal stories and anecdotes about the journey to “No”, how it relieves stress, and leads to a more productive life
Steps, tips, and tricks to control your life through the power of No
If you liked Boundaries; The Art of Saying NO; or Set Boundaries, Find Peace; you’ll love No Will Set You Free.
“Tougias sees a ‘beauty of no;’ by setting boundaries one can zero in on what is important. For him, that means more time for his family, his health, his hobbies of bike riding and being in nature and writing.” —MassLive
“I don’t know anyone who won’t benefit from this book. We all struggle to say no, and when we fail to do so, we sacrifice things that would be better, or simply more enjoyable, uses of our time. No Will Set You Free offers smart, interactive solutions to help you get better at saying no while minimizing hurt feelings and maintaining relationships. It’s a punchy, practical, indispensable guide.” —Vanessa Bohns, PhD, professor of Organizational Behavior at Cornell University and author of You Have More Influence Than You Think
Michael Tougias is a New York Times Bestselling author who has earned critical acclaim and literary awards for his 30 bestselling non-fiction narratives. Many of his books have been published by Simon & Schuster, St. Martins Press, Henry Holt, and Public Affairs . He co-authored the book, The Finest Hours, about a daring rescue of thirty stranded sailors by the U.S. Coast Guard off the coast of Cape Cod. Disney has released a major motion picture of the same name, starring Chris Pines and Casey Affleck. His latest book Above & Beyond: JFK and America’s Most Dangerous Spy Mission (April 2018) received a starred review from Booklist which said “The writing is superb.” It was also selected by the MA Book Award as one of the “Ten Best Books of the Year.” Tougias has written for over a hundred magazines and newspapers including The New York Times, USA Today, Boston Globe, and many more. He is a sought after speaker who has given keynote lectures in almost all fifty states.
Contents
Author’s Note
Introduction
Why We Say Yes
No to Group Pressure—At Any Age
The Day I Learned the Beauty of No
When to Lean Toward Yes
Woman and No
Impulse
Easy No’s: Creating More Time for You
No and Your Children
Careful Use of No with Your Spouse and Relatives
No and Your Health
No Without Saying No or The Art of Taking a Pass
No at Work
No to Negativity
A New Take on Failure
The Three P’s: Perfectionism, Procrastination, and Patterning
No is Not Selfish
No and Negotiations, Operating Your Business, or Managing a Department
No to Fear and Worry
No and Your Money
When You Are the Requestor
Historic No’s and No’s of Conviction and Consequence
Some Short No’s
