Family & Relationships

Cómo pasar del «yo» al «nosotros» en un mundo cada vez más individualista y así mantener relaciones de pareja fuertes y estables.

«Este libro es una hoja de ruta para todos los que buscamos la verdadera intimidad», Gwyneth Paltrow

«Una guía revolucionaria para una pareja próspera y feliz», Lori Gottlieb

«Uno de los mejores libros del año», The Wall Street Journal

No hay nada más difícil e importante que descubrir cómo amar a tu pareja en todo su desorden. En un momento en que el individualismo tóxico está desgarrando nuestra sociedad a todos los niveles, Terrence Real, renombrado terapeuta familiar y autor de bestsellers, ve en su consulta cómo esta tendencia envenena las relaciones, hasta el punto de situar a las parejas al borde del precipicio. La buena noticia es: las relaciones más cálidas, cercanas y apasionadas son posibles si contamos con las herramientas adecuadas.

En su nuevo y transformador libro, Nosotros, Real observa brillantemente cómo nuestra cultura basada en la competición se infiltra en las familias con resultados devastadores: peleas repetitivas que no llevan a ninguna parte, o una relación distante en la que los miembros de la pareja acaban viviendo «solos pero juntos». Con hábil perspicacia, humor y encanto, Real nos guía para transformar nuestra relación en una que esté basada en la compasión, la colaboración y la cercanía.

Nosotros es una guía revolucionaria con innovadoras habilidades respaldadas por la ciencia que nos permitirán superar esas reacciones automáticas e instintivas para acceder a nuestro yo más sabio y colaborativo. Con el estilo de un gran novelista, Real comparte las historias de parejas cuyas relaciones se han salvado gracias a estas habilidades y consigue desmontar a esta cultura que el individualismo por encima de todo. Si sientes que tu pareja y tú se dividen entre «tú» y «yo», este libro os ayudará a ver el camino de vuelta al «nosotros». Con «nosotros» puede comenzar tu verdadera relación.

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How to move from the "I" to the "we" in an increasingly individualistic world and thus maintain strong and stable relationships.

"This book is a roadmap for all of us seeking true intimacy", Gwyneth Paltrow

"A Revolutionary Guide to a Prosperous and Happy Couple", Lori Gottlieb

"One of the best books of the year", The Wall Street Journal

There's nothing more difficult and important than figuring out how to love your partner in all their clutter. At a time when toxic individualism is tearing apart our society at every level, Terrence Real, renowned family therapist and bestselling author, sees in his practice how this trend poisons relationships, to the point of placing couples on the edge of the precipice. The good news is: warmer, closer, and more passionate relationships are possible if we have the right tools.

In his transformative new book, Us, Real brilliantly observes how our competition-based culture infiltrates families with devastating results: repetitive fights that lead nowhere, or a distant relationship in which partners end up living "alone but together." With skillful insight, humor, and charm, Real guides us to transform our relationship into one that is based on compassion, collaboration, and closeness.

Us is a revolutionary guide with innovative science-backed skills that will allow us to overcome those automatic, instinctive reactions to access our wisest, most collaborative selves. With the style of a great novelist, Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved thanks to these skills and manages to dismantle this culture that individualism above all else.

If you feel that you and your partner are divided between "you" and "me," this book will help you see your way back to the "us." With "us" your true relationship can begin.

A vital anthology exploring the intersections between caregiving and abolition

Abolition has never been a proposal to simply tear things down. As Alexis Pauline Gumbs asks, “What if abolition is something that grows?” As we struggle to build a liberatory, caring, loving, abundant future, we have much to learn from the work of birthing, raising, caring for, and loving future generations.

In We Grow the World Together, abolitionists and organizers Maya Schenwar and Kim Wilson bring together a remarkable collection of voices revealing the complex tapestry of ways people are living abolition in their daily lives through parenting and caregiving. Ranging from personal narratives to policy-focused analysis to activist chronicles, these writers highlight how abolition is essential to any kind of parenting justice.

Contributors include:
Beth Richie
Harsha Walia
EJ, 6 years old
Dorothy Roberts
Ruth Wilson Gilmore
Dylan Rodríguez
Bill Ayers and Bernardine Dohrn
Shira Hassan
Victoria Law
Mariame Kaba
The PDX Childcare Collective
adrienne maree brown and Autumn Brown
and more

The second installment of Through a Therapist’s Eyes helps couples unlock the secrets to building a stronger, more vibrant marriage.

Written by Christopher A. Gazdik, LCSW, Through a Therapist's Eyes: Reunderstanding Your Marriage and Becoming Your Best as a Spouse delves into the universal concept of marriage, exploring its diverse beginnings, whether through arranged unions or serendipitous love stories. 

Addressing the common challenge of keeping the connection alive, a struggle many individuals face, this resource offers a distinctive approach by immersing individuals in the raw and insightful world of real-life therapy sessions.

Offering a front-row seat in a therapist's office, where genuine people endeavor to enhance their marriages or salvage them from distress, this thoughtful exploration delivers pragmatic, down-to-earth steps derived from these authentic therapy sessions. It serves as a guide, offering practical insights and actionable advice to empower people on their journey to becoming the best possible partners for their spouses.

Through a Therapist’s Eyes guides individuals in rekindling love and fortifying the connection within their relationships through firsthand glimpses into therapy sessions, providing them with tools to navigate the complexities of marriage and emerge as better, more connected spouses.

A vital anthology exploring the intersections between caregiving and abolition

Abolition has never been a proposal to simply tear things down. As Alexis Pauline Gumbs asks, “What if abolition is something that grows?” As we struggle to build a liberatory, caring, loving, abundant future, we have much to learn from the work of birthing, raising, caring for, and loving future generations.

In We Grow the World Together, abolitionists and organizers Maya Schenwar and Kim Wilson bring together a remarkable collection of voices revealing the complex tapestry of ways people are living abolition in their daily lives through parenting and caregiving. Ranging from personal narratives to policy-focused analysis to activist chronicles, these writers highlight how abolition is essential to any kind of parenting justice.

Contributors include:
Beth Richie
Harsha Walia
EJ, 6 years old
Dorothy Roberts
Ruth Wilson Gilmore
Dylan Rodríguez
Bill Ayers and Bernardine Dohrn
Shira Hassan
Victoria Law
Mariame Kaba
The PDX Childcare Collective
adrienne maree brown and Autumn Brown
and more

In making love, one is elevated beyond the carnal desires it satisfies. For the religious, it is Divine; for those who are not religiously inclined, it is still a spiritual experience, one of seamless solidarity, a unity of two as one that defies mere orgasmic stimulation. You don’t have to make love to have sex. Even strangers can be sexually attracted and have an orgasmic escapade. But in the act of making love, there is symbolic meaning that is felt through-and-through the sex act. Two in love are joined, in life, and the sexual expression of this unison is deeply felt in the sex act itself. This is sexual intimacy, the making of love, the likes of which is rarely, if ever, seen outside a loving relationship. There is no escape from the philosophical dimensions of such a loving relationship. It is as abstract as it is concrete in the ideals that ground it. There is a mystery about it, a kind of transcendent experience that defies translation into words. Making and being in love are thus joined at the hip. Loving relationships make the bed in which true lovers sleep.
Unfortunately, many relationships flounder or never get off the ground. Just having sex may ease the tension, but it then becomes a means, not truly an end-in-itself. The moment the sex act ends, the couple may retreat and fall into discord. It is an oasis in a barren desert that provides temporary relief, a titillating, temporary escape from reality. This book can help you to overcome the obstacles, the unlovable habits that encumber your relationship, both inside and outside the bedroom. It can help to create the harmonic balance between your sex life and other aspects of your personal and interpersonal relationships, which are preludes to making and being in love.
To accomplish this, it applies a five-step method based on Logic-Based Therapy & Consultation (LBTC), a popular form of evidence-based, philosophical counseling modality. First, it introduces you to six types of unlovable ways of thinking and acting and helps you to identify the ones that may be sabotaging your own relationship. Second, it shows you how to counter these self-defeating habits with certain lovable goals (“virtues of love”). Third, it helps you to identify and embrace a personal “love philosophy” that empowers you to reach for your lovable goals. Fourth, it provides core philosophical ideas that are key to any successful quest for romantic love. Fifth, it helps you construct a behavioral plan that applies your philosophies to making constructive changes in your relationship. The latter may require making changes both inside and outside your relationship. Thus, this book also shows you how the problems you are having in one area of your life (at work, in your social life, etc.) can affect the quality of your relationship, inside and outside the bedroom, and it offers guidance, including self-improvement exercises, to overcome these impediments and attain enduring love and sexual intimacy.

In making love, one is elevated beyond the carnal desires it satisfies. For the religious, it is Divine; for those who are not religiously inclined, it is still a spiritual experience, one of seamless solidarity, a unity of two as one that defies mere orgasmic stimulation. You don’t have to make love to have sex. Even strangers can be sexually attracted and have an orgasmic escapade. But in the act of making love, there is symbolic meaning that is felt through-and-through the sex act. Two in love are joined, in life, and the sexual expression of this unison is deeply felt in the sex act itself. This is sexual intimacy, the making of love, the likes of which is rarely, if ever, seen outside a loving relationship. There is no escape from the philosophical dimensions of such a loving relationship. It is as abstract as it is concrete in the ideals that ground it. There is a mystery about it, a kind of transcendent experience that defies translation into words. Making and being in love are thus joined at the hip. Loving relationships make the bed in which true lovers sleep.
Unfortunately, many relationships flounder or never get off the ground. Just having sex may ease the tension, but it then becomes a means, not truly an end-in-itself. The moment the sex act ends, the couple may retreat and fall into discord. It is an oasis in a barren desert that provides temporary relief, a titillating, temporary escape from reality. This book can help you to overcome the obstacles, the unlovable habits that encumber your relationship, both inside and outside the bedroom. It can help to create the harmonic balance between your sex life and other aspects of your personal and interpersonal relationships, which are preludes to making and being in love.
To accomplish this, it applies a five-step method based on Logic-Based Therapy & Consultation (LBTC), a popular form of evidence-based, philosophical counseling modality. First, it introduces you to six types of unlovable ways of thinking and acting and helps you to identify the ones that may be sabotaging your own relationship. Second, it shows you how to counter these self-defeating habits with certain lovable goals (“virtues of love”). Third, it helps you to identify and embrace a personal “love philosophy” that empowers you to reach for your lovable goals. Fourth, it provides core philosophical ideas that are key to any successful quest for romantic love. Fifth, it helps you construct a behavioral plan that applies your philosophies to making constructive changes in your relationship. The latter may require making changes both inside and outside your relationship. Thus, this book also shows you how the problems you are having in one area of your life (at work, in your social life, etc.) can affect the quality of your relationship, inside and outside the bedroom, and it offers guidance, including self-improvement exercises, to overcome these impediments and attain enduring love and sexual intimacy.

Married Ever After is a guide through the marriage process based on 20 timeless Qur'anic principles, insightful Prophetic examples and contemporary research on maintaining successful relationships. We know all relationships involve struggle, and challenges are an inevitable part of a believer's life. Married Ever After teaches us how to pick the struggles that are worthy, rewarding and lead to the greatest pleasure.  

Whether you are preparing for marriage, already in a marriage or contemplating ending one, Married Ever After is your companion, reminder and compass back to Divine pleasure at every stage.  

Rooted in Islamic principles, we learn how our spiritual health impacts the wellbeing of our human relationships. The goal of Married Ever After is more important than ever. Learn how to revive the contentment at home, because successful thriving families are at the heart of a successful thriving Ummah.  

In this important and transformative guide, three experienced practitioners identify the widespread dysfunctional dynamic they call "irrelationship," a psychological defense system two people create together to protect themselves from the fear and anxiety of real intimacy in a relationship.

Drawing on their wide clinical and life experience, the authors look at the behavioral "song-and-dance" routines repeatedly performed by couples in irrelationships. Readers will find a valuable framework for understanding their challenges with action-oriented tools to help them navigate their way to fulfilling relationships.

Mark B. Borg, Jr., PhD, is a community psychologist and psychoanalyst, and a supervisor of psychotherapy at the William Alanson White Institute.

Grant H. Brenner, MD, is a board-certified psychiatrist in private practice, specializing in treating mood and anxiety disorders and the complex problems that may arise in adulthood from childhood trauma and loss.

Daniel Berry, RN, MHA, has practiced as a Registered Nurse in New York City since 1987 and has worked for almost two decades in community-based programs.

We all want our relationships to be healthy—but who knows how to make that happen? Husband and wife authors Steve and Angie McCord, a couple with more than twenty years in recovery each, share with you the sound advice and spiritual exercises that have helped their own relationship grow and thrive. 

In A Spiritual Path to a Healthy Relationship you will learn effective tools and solutions for achieving the relationship you desire, including:

• Envisioning the qualities you want in a mate and identifying "must haves" and "deal breakers"
  
• Transitioning from self-reliance to partnership
• Overcoming relationship fears and getting past intimacy roadblocks
• Nurturing positive communication, gratitude, and spiritual connection
• Applying prayer and meditation for a more peaceful relationship

Steve McCord is a licensed marriage and family therapist who has provided counseling to individuals, couples, and families since 1991. Angie McCord is a certified life coach specializing in personal and professional relationships. They bring their avid quest for spiritual growth to their professional lives and have been actively involved in the recovery community for more than twenty and thirsty years, respectively. As leaders of couples retreats, they find great joy in mentoring others. Steve and Angie were married on March 30, 2003. 

What happens when your partner, your primary person, in an instant, becomes a source of danger and pain?

The Betrayal Bind introduces new language, concepts, and imagery to explore the crucial relational dilemma that betrayed partners face when their significant other is unsafe to connect to, yet connection is the key to healing. 

Discovering a partner’s sexual betrayal spins your world out of control. In a split second, your sense of safety is shattered, your trust is gone, and everything you thought you could count on is in question. 

Betrayed partners, whether dealing with an isolated infidelity or a pattern of sexual compulsivity, need immediate support to navigate the new terrain of their relationship. They need a clear articulation of betrayal trauma, a thorough education about their normal attachment-based reactions, and a proven path to healing. 

By focusing on how a partner’s attachment system functions in the wake of sexual betrayal, The Betrayal Bind offers a new, game-changing exploration into an age-old problem and connects the dots from research to the lived experience of betrayed partners.

A vital guide to overcome the barriers to achieving intimacy and meaningful connection

People in resilient relationships are co-owners, experience reciprocity, and are better prepared to meet challenges authentically and effectively. In this sequel to the best-selling Irrelationship, the authors use examples from their clinical practice to review the concept of irrelationship and expand the DREAM Sequence, a tool used by affected couples to address perennial relationship issues.

By mutually and mindfully viewing the relationship as a third entity, separate from each individual, couples will learn how to live in and with the ambiguity of empathy, intimacy, vulnerability, and emotional investment and view relationship sanity as a deliberate and joyful undertaking to maintain and deepen connection.

So many couples are guilty of the same dream: we are supposed to walk into love knowing how to do it—how to build and maintain a relationship. 

Creating and maintaining a great marriage, relationship, or partnership is hard work. A second truth is that nobody teaches you how to do it.

Conflict Resolution breaks down a five-step model for readers in any type of romantic partnership to help couples find a new understanding of what a successful relationship can look like.

A book to offer clarity and guidance when facing the difficult decision of whether your relationship has a future.

Whether we should stay in or leave a relationship is one of the most consequential and painful decisions we are ever likely to confront.

What makes the issue so hard is that there are no fixed rules for judgement. How can we tell whether a relationship is 'good enough' or plain wrong? How do we draw the line between justified longing and naivety? Does someone 'better' actually exist? Should the feelings of children be counted (and what might they be in the long term)? Could one's partner change, perhaps with therapy, or should one assume that who they are now is who they will always be?

All these questions typically haunt our minds as we weigh up whether to stay or go. With no axe to grind or ideology to promote, Stay or Leave walks us gently through our options, opening our minds to perspectives we might not have considered.

This book aims to take the reader towards a time, presently hard to imagine, when the choice will no longer feel so agonizing. Using its lessons, we can understand ourselves deeply, consider our options, minimize our regrets and find the way ahead.

• REFRESHINGLY PRAGMATIC relationship advice for couples of all kinds.
• ROMANTIC REALISM a common sense way to look at your relationship.
• RELATIONSHIP TOOLKIT for working through your fears and anxieties.
• THERAPIST-RESEARCHED draws from The School of Life’s Therapy department and their experience providing couples therapy.

The School of Life’s guide to the rest of a life together

Our society devotes huge attention to the start of a marriage – and the wedding ceremony —but the real challenge lies beyond the wedding, with the long years ahead, and here we are often left alone.

This box is The School of Life’s guide to the rest of a life together, containing twenty beautiful cards which lay out the central ideas on how to make a relationship work over the decades beyond the wedding day. It is filled with artful suggestions on coping with what even the most loving couple will face as they build a life together. This set of cards is both a celebration of marriage and a rich source of insights into the skills it demands.

"A moving look at the ties that bind."— Publisher's Weekly

An intimate look at the complexities of family life told through evocative photography and authentic interviews.

Families are a mystery. Is everyone’s as complicated as ours? Is there such a thing as a "normal" one? We generally only get to see the polished exteriors and are left to imagine what might be going on behind closed doors. Here is a book that takes us on a tour around the reality of families. It provides a rare, privileged glimpse into private realms, allowing us a new, profound understanding of ourselves and others. 

Comprised of 60 interviews and portraits captured by five supremely talented photographers – Mark Hobbs, Kate Peters, Marjolaine Ryley, Michelle Sank and Naomi Williams – the book introduces us to an extraordinary array of participants: new parents, stepchildren, siblings, the wealthy and the marginalized, the old and the young.

In this book, photographs intertwine with the the subject's story, reminding us of Humans of New York - a photographic project by Brandon Stanton which portraits daily glimpses into the lives of strangers on the streets of New York City.

What surfaces is the astounding diversity of family life – and the number of commonalities too. Above all, we recognize the fundamental role that family plays in making us who we are.This is a book for anyone who has ever wondered about their family or fantasized about being part of someone else’s – in short, this is a book for us all.

A bold rethinking of the wedding ceremony - and what comes before and after - designed to prepare us for modern marriage.

Many couples today feel uncomfortable with the rituals traditionally associated with getting married. The old ceremonies can feel too overtly religious and out of step with the complexities of contemporary relationships. In response to this dilemma, The School of Life has rethought the ideal wedding day and redesigned the entire process from scratch.

The book begins by proposing new methods of psychological preparation, providing practical advice on how to prepare not only for the day of the wedding, but for the long marriage that follows. Also included is a practical and thoughtfully redesigned wedding ceremony, covering everything from picking a venue to writing vows and selecting readings.

With their trademark wisdom and warmth, The School of Life presents a bold rethinking of one of humankind's most important and popular rituals.

• AN OUTLINE FOR A NEW KIND OF WEDDING CEREMONY: based on psychological theory rather than religious traditions.
  
• INCLUDES PRACTICAL INSTRUCTION: for marriage preparation, as well as advice for married life.
• GENDER INCLUSIVE: and non-heteronormative.
• PART OF THE NEW PAPERBACK SERIES 'LESSONS FOR LIFE'

• PRACTICAL ADVICE ON AFFAIRS: and on dealing with the aftermath of an affair.
• WHY DO AFFAIRS HAPPEN?: historical and psychological framework to help us understand affairs-both the lead up, and the aftermath.
• A FRESH TAKE ON INFIDELITY: and how it impacts our lives.
• PART OF THE SCHOOL OF LIFE'S LOVE SERIES: focusing on the joys and sorrows of relationships.

A book to offer clarity and guidance when facing the difficult decision of whether your relationship has a future

Should you stay or leave?

Whether we should stay in or leave a relationship is one of the most consequential and painful decisions we are ever likely to confront.

What makes the issue so hard is that there are no fixed rules for judgment. How can we tell whether a relationship is “good enough” or just not the right fit? How do we draw the line between longing and naivety? Is sex vital or can a relationship survive without it? Does someone “better” actually exist? How much should the feelings of children be considered (and what might they be in the long term)? Could one’s partner change, perhaps with therapy, or should one assume that who they are now is who they will always be?

All these questions typically haunt us as we weigh whether to stay or go. With no ax to grind, or ideology to promote, this book takes the reader (gently) through their options and opens their mind to perspectives they might not have considered. The goal is to help clarify what the reader wants—truly wants—deep down, so that the answer that emerges will be properly attuned to their unique circumstances and often very private aspirations. Here is a tool that carries the promise of the future we deserve.

This book aims to take the reader towards a time, perhaps presently hard to imagine, when the choice of whether to stay or go will no longer feel so agonizing. This book helps us understand ourselves deeply, helps us consider our options, minimize our regrets—and find the way ahead.

In the context of dramatically changing contemporary patterns of mate selection in China, Mate Selection in China focuses upon both the causes and consequences the societal changes which have resulted in a considerable shift in the ways in which young adults go about finding a spouse.

Tracking a period of change, from a long history of patriarchal families and arranged marriages, into an environment wherein individuals are relatively free to choose their intimate partners, Blair, Madison and Fang demonstrate and analyse how recent shifts in divorce, cohabitation, and pre-marital sex have altered young adults’ perceptions of marriage. Delving into demographic factors, such as the skewed sex ratio among young adults which have resulted in an overabundance of young males, cultural factors, such as increasingly individualistic forms of dating, and social and economic change which has resulted an increasingly materialistic middle-class, this book highlights that while traditional influence of parents in the selection of partners for their children has been overtaken, mate selection choices are not entirely made by the individuals themselves.

Providing a comprehensive examination of mate selection within an ever-changing context, this book is a fascinating read for scholars interested in the impact of culture of family and marriage.

Joshua W. White is a combat veteran who served during the 2003 invasion of Iraq. His story of what it’s like growing up in a fly-over state, riddled with poverty and drugs, and how the Marine Corps calling changed his life forever is one that everyone needs to hear.

Among the Greatest is a real life testimonial from the front lines of a major US conflict, and the struggle to readjust back into society as a young man.

For any person who is suffering with PTSD, or who lives with daily adversity, this is testament to weathering the toughest storms and putting yourself back to work. The hardest thing anyone could ever do is admit their mistakes, accept something is wrong, or recognize they NEED help. It’s important to share that even during the toughest of days, there are lessons to be learned within the chaos. It's those lessons that often lead to some of the greatest outcomes in life. As long as you are breathing, you are still in the fight, and you can make a difference. Joshua is a mentor that encourages readers to put a stake in the ground and make the decision to never give up!

"Your partner can and should meet all of your emotional needs." "All disagreements can and should be resolved." “Great relationships require little maintenance.”

Old models of marriage such as these are crumbling. Divorce rates remain high. Many people are skeptical and mistrustful about having real love in their lives. It's clear people need new models to help them connect with each other in meaningful, lasting ways. It's time to break free from old patterns of commitment and to forge new pathways for healthy, thriving, deeply loving relationships.

This hope-filled resource for developing soulful, mature love is aimed at committed couples who are looking to build, maintain and glorify the sacred in their relationship. It creates a context for couples to honor the gradual movement from physical “flight-fight-freeze” body-based survival to more heart-filled, communication-oriented love, to spiritual awakening and soul-purpose fulfillment. It encourages couples—as individuals and as partners—to let go of dysfunctional, hurtful, restrictive behavior in favor of liberating self-concepts and belief systems. It provides solutions for communicating and problem-solving more effectively, allowing each partner in the relationship to experience more emotional intimacy, joy and sexual pleasure. The book provides relationship information, practical tools and inspirational, real-life stories. It also offers a banquet of spiritual practices for couples of all faiths—or none—to bring these new models into focused action.

"Your partner can and should meet all of your emotional needs." "All disagreements can and should be resolved." “Great relationships require little maintenance.”

Old models of marriage such as these are crumbling. Divorce rates remain high. Many people are skeptical and mistrustful about having real love in their lives. It's clear people need new models to help them connect with each other in meaningful, lasting ways. It's time to break free from old patterns of commitment and to forge new pathways for healthy, thriving, deeply loving relationships.

This hope-filled resource for developing soulful, mature love is aimed at committed couples who are looking to build, maintain and glorify the sacred in their relationship. It creates a context for couples to honor the gradual movement from physical “flight-fight-freeze” body-based survival to more heart-filled, communication-oriented love, to spiritual awakening and soul-purpose fulfillment. It encourages couples—as individuals and as partners—to let go of dysfunctional, hurtful, restrictive behavior in favor of liberating self-concepts and belief systems. It provides solutions for communicating and problem-solving more effectively, allowing each partner in the relationship to experience more emotional intimacy, joy and sexual pleasure. The book provides relationship information, practical tools and inspirational, real-life stories. It also offers a banquet of spiritual practices for couples of all faiths—or none—to bring these new models into focused action.

Straightforward and nonjudgmental advice for dating couples, partners,
husbands and wives, in-laws, counselors and others.

Interfaith relationships are commonplace; the challenges that go along with them are not. An interfaith couple will have to confront tough questions, yet it’s often difficult to find answers, especially when traditional sources of help—family, friends, clergy and counselors—are unable or unwilling to understand the problems.

From a Jewish perspective, this book guides interfaith couples at any stage of their relationship—from dating and engagement, to the wedding and marriage—and the people who are affected by their relationship in any way, including their families and counselors who work with interfaith couples.

While making no judgments or dictating answers, and supporting individual choice, topics covered include:

• What is an intermarriage?
• Why do people intermarry?
• When do you bring up the subject of religion?
• What is conversion and is it necessary?
• When do you discuss and decide how children will be raised?
• … and much more!

Straightforward and nonjudgmental advice for dating couples, partners,
husbands and wives, in-laws, counselors and others.

Interfaith relationships are commonplace; the challenges that go along with them are not. An interfaith couple will have to confront tough questions, yet it’s often difficult to find answers, especially when traditional sources of help—family, friends, clergy and counselors—are unable or unwilling to understand the problems.

From a Jewish perspective, this book guides interfaith couples at any stage of their relationship—from dating and engagement, to the wedding and marriage—and the people who are affected by their relationship in any way, including their families and counselors who work with interfaith couples.

While making no judgments or dictating answers, and supporting individual choice, topics covered include:

• What is an intermarriage?
• Why do people intermarry?
• When do you bring up the subject of religion?
• What is conversion and is it necessary?
• When do you discuss and decide how children will be raised?
• … and much more!

Learning to look at life with four eyes and two hearts joined into one soul

Continuing his transmission of 2,000-year-old Polynesian wisdom that began with The Pleasure Prescription, Paul Pearsall introduces in this new book what be calls "naupaka love" or aloha kakou—love shared, profound companionship, surrendering to a relationship in all its dimensions and embracing it as a lifelong mission of discovery and mutual pleasure.

Our society tells us that individual success and self-fulfillment are the keys to happiness. This book asks, If that is true, why do so many of us—even those who are in a relationship—feel unhappy and alone? And it answers that there is no joy if there is no one to share it with. As a poet said long ago, "No man is an island .... "

A uniquely warm combination of oral wisdom and current research, Partners in Pleasure is nothing less than a re-visioning of marriage. It offers eight lessons in mahele (sharing)—eight pleasure prescriptions for partners, from dreaming die same dream to becoming one body. Woven throughout are partnering tests; relationship lessons from Hawai`i's foremost kupuna (elders) and kahuna (healers or priests); and insights from Dr. Pearsall's own work and seminars.

Partners in Pleasure shows couples how they can come together to face the challenges of life—conflict, sexual compatibility, child-rearing, career setbacks and getting old—and grow ever stronger together, united in heart.

Every couple for whom marriage is forever unearths nuggets of wisdom along the way. In Love for a Lifetime: Daily Wisdom and Wit for a Long and Happy Marriage, columnist Mary Hance shares a wealth of golden tips, collected far and wide from young couples just setting out to those whose wedding vows still echo through half a century and more. Here are a few:

• “Throw the word fair out the window. In one year of a marriage, one person may need 99 percent of the love, effort, or focus of the other; another year, it may be just the opposite.”
• “What my father always told me when I was planning my wedding: ‘You have to want to have a marriage, not just a wedding. Remember the difference.’ ”
• “Learn fast that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence!”
  
• “After several years of marriage, there is no way I’m training another husband, so I will just keep the one I have!”

Feeling that you and your spouse need some new sparkle for that old marriage, but you’re too busy to take a seminar? Here is a guide filled with simple pointers for reviving the luster in that all-important relationship. In 75 Things To Improve Your Marriage Without Your Spouse Even Knowing, Barbara Bartlein offers an array of tips for rubbing the tarnish from the routine. Here are a few:

• Put out the fancy dishes for no particular reason
• Surprise them with a water balloon!
• Compliment them in public
• Dance in the living room
• Say, “I have confidence in you,” and say it often
• Have an attitude of gratitude

Helpful Strategies for Improving Your Marriage

Movies like Sleepless in Seattle and An Affair to Remember bombard people with bad ideas about love. We are led to believe that if you meet the “right person” and fall in love, your marriage will thrive and you will be happy. However, while love is important, stable marriages are not based on love alone.

Barbara Bartlein has worked with hundreds of couples as they have worked to save their marriages, and in Why Did I Marry You Anyway? she shares the secrets of what they have learned together. A happy, successful marriage almost always is the result of hard work and commitment, she says, but all too often people don’t know what to do to improve their marriages. This book fills that gap. With 15 strategies that cover all the common problems in relationships—like money, children, sex, and in-laws—Bartlein tells couples what to do and shows them how to do it.

Each chapter addresses one of these important relationship-building strategies. First, a common complaint is explored. Second, common myths that block solutions to the problem are identified and helpful ways of countering them suggested. Third, case studies illustrate the concepts in action with real couples. Finally, quizzes and tools provide opportunities to practice these new skills and behaviors. The result is a helpful, humorous, and easy-to-read book that will result in positive changes in the lives of those who read it and put its strategies into practice.

Nearly everyone has heard of the Ten Commandments. Most people can even name a few of them. For fifty-five years Mac and Amy McNair have used the commandments to establish the basic guidelines for their own marriage. In Ten Principles for a Successful Marriage they share these principles and illustrate them with personal stories from their own marriage as well as from couples they have counseled.

While at first these insights may seem like nothing more than common courtesy—or for that matter just plain common sense—the McNairs acknowledge them as the foundation on which their long-lived marriage is built, and they firmly believe that other couples can strengthen their marriages by following these ten biblically-based principles.

"Ten Principles for a Successful Marriage is a masterpiece. We use it in answering the many letters and phone calls we receive from troubled couples." —Ruth Stafford Peale, Co-founder, Publisher, and Chairman of the Board, Guideposts

Now more than ever, couples are facing tough times that can impact on even the strongest of marriages. In In Good Times and Bad, family counselor and relationships expert M. Gary Neuman and his wife, Melisa, take a look at one of the biggest issues couples face, money management, and give you the tools you need to deal with whatever financial challenges come your way. The Neumans explain why it's so important to talk about money in your marriage and offer strategies on how to discuss this often avoided topic. No matter what your age or how long you've been together, In Good Times and Bad will teach you how to come together when it matters most.

• Learn what money means to you and how to strengthen your marriage even during challenging times
• Includes strategies for dealing with other tough times such as grieving or serious illness
• From the author of the New York Times bestseller The Truth about Cheating

In Good Times and Bad is the tool you need to ensure your relationship remains strong through all of life's ups and downs.

Married Love or Love in Marriage (1918) is a book on reproductive health by Marie Stopes. Banned in the US and scorned by the British establishment, Married Love or Love in Marriage was controversial for its openness regarding sex and the use of contraceptives between husbands and wives. While relatively conservative by today’s standards, the pioneering work was an essential, bestselling book that guided generations of men and woman on how to nurture happy, healthy sexual relationships without increasing the stresses of motherhood and everyday life. "More than ever to-day are happy homes needed. It is my hope that this book may serve the State by adding to their number. Its object is to increase the joys of marriage, and to show how much sorrow may be avoided." Working with this goal in mind, Marie Stopes set out to rewrite the rulebook on sexual relationships between married men and women. Published the same year that she opened the first birth control clinic in the United Kingdom, Married Love or Love in Marriage pursued the thesis that desire and happiness could be nurtured within the home between a husband and wife by educating men and women on the use of contraceptives. An immediate bestseller, Stopes’ work marked a seismic shift in discourse on women’s reproductive health, paving the way for many of the reforms and attitudes some take for granted today. Risking her reputation and leaving behind a successful career in paleobotany, Stopes dedicated herself to the rights of women in England and around the world, for whom the burden of motherhood often proved not only limiting, but detrimental to their physical and mental health. This edition of Marie Stopes’ Married Love or Love in Marriage is a classic of British scientific literature reimagined for modern readers.

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Originally published in 1891, this hilarious (and informative) collection is a treasure trove of essential advice any man or woman, or couple, would be foolish to ignore.

From advice about how to find the perfect partner…

• Don't marry a villain.
• Don't marry a duke, or anyone who travels on his title.
• If money is your object, the older and uglier he is, the better.
• Avoid slovenly dressed girls or heedless men.

…to advice about how to wed…

• Don't propose on a wash-day, in the rain, at breakfast or in a tunnel.
• Marry at home or at church, in good form, without display.

…as well as general words of wisdom…

…Hildreth's Advice for Marriage is a delightful collection that is as relevant today as it was 100 years ago.

As a young widow, Ashley Bugge was suddenly faced with the task of raising two young children and a newborn child without the support of her spouse. Could she do it alone? 

The Ocean is Calling exposes the realities of a life’s greatest love and loss: the unexpected death of a spouse, followed by giving birth to a child, alone. Facing insurmountable grief, Ashley Bugge takes readers through a journey like no other—from a bitter dark night with a bottle of sleeping pills in her hand to giving birth alone, to a no-holds-barred expedition through eight countries with her three young children in tow.

Ashley holds nothing back as she includes readers on her real-time voyage through incredible states, countries and oceans. She shares daring, challenging moments of donning scuba diving gear to explore the same water her husband took his last breath, traversing mountains in Switzerland, exploring WWII remains in Poland, and grappling with the struggles of a young widow raising three children on her own. 

The Ocean is Calling shares a journey of heartache, discovery, travel, family and exploration. Ashley hopes that her story will encourage readers to be confident and trust that whatever happens in life, there is hope and joy ahead. 

Listen, Learn, Love is a user-friendly guide filled with practical suggestions and simple skills anyone can use to create better relationships. And who doesn’t have at least one relationship in their life they would like to be better? While wanting a good relationship is a great beginning, building great relationships takes a few skills. Listen, Learn, Love is packed with concise and actionable tips shared with clarity, humor and authenticity, and shows readers how to dramatically improve their relationships in 30 days or less.

From Broken to Beautiful shows women how to adjust their communication with their husbands in order for them to have the relationship they truly desire. From Broken to Beautiful walks women through Sarah Jane Patton’s real-life triumphs and tribulations that led her to healing and happiness. After reading From Broken to Beautiful, women and their husbands will:

Always Coming Back Home uses heartfelt stories and real-time emails sent from a deployed sailor to his bride, readers quickly become invested in this young family. The couple takes readers on adventures of sailing and scuba diving throughout the world. They also keep readers laughing as the couple becomes first time parents, anxious with them during military deployments, upset with them through miscarriages and family loss, and finally, heartbroken as it all comes to an end with a single phone call. Always Coming Back Home is a candid and raw account of two ordinary people coming together to accomplish extraordinary things.

After two divorces, Kathryn MacIntyre knew that a perfect marriage could be attainable. To seek out the answers to a perfect marriage, she traveled around the world and is now happily married. Within Marriage Made Easier, she uses her techniques as a certified laughter yoga instructor, teacher, and certified Rolfer to help others determine if divorce is right for them. In Marriage Made Easier, women learn how to:

Over the last twenty-five years, Co-Pastors Angela Yousey and her husband, Chris Yousey, have hosted marriage conferences and provided biblical counseling for many couples. Their church, Spirit of Love Ministries, evolved from the many marriages they’ve helped. Within Creating Unity, Angela and Chris teach married men and women:

For over thirty years, Dr. Cheri McDonald has helped her clients achieve the life of their dreams and a happily-ever-after marriage. By integrating rituals and symbolic steps to her teamwork-based approach, Dr. Cheri guides women within Heal Your Trauma, Heal Your Marriage on how to:

Author, lightworker, mother, and wife, Kelsey Domiana knows all too well what it means to feel unsupported and exhausted with raising a family. As her husband, a professional basketball player, is often traveling, she realized that she needed to reclaim her joy and find a support system. Kelsey knows that it’s not impossible to feel empowered when one’s husband is away. In Help! My Husband Is Hardly Home, she shares her truth of feeling the overwhelm, isolation, and frustration that comes with having a partner who works away from home. Through her empowering eight-step process, she reveals to women:

With thirty-eight years of experience helping nearly-weds and established couples, William Hutcheson is ready to help married couples have the happy relationship God intended for their marriage. In Marriage Maximized, couples learn:

When betrayal happens in a marriage, many couples face the decision to leave or divorce their spouse. However, it is possible to resolve a relationship after betrayal and to nurture a healthy relationship. In Roots of Forgiveness, Christine Elizabeth Leon provides an eight-step process to repair one’s marriage and ignite healing in their relationship. She created these steps by learning from her own personal journey, background in psychology, and life-coaching practice. Within Roots of Forgiveness, readers learn:

Being a mom in the military is very difficult because there is always the underlying uncertainty of what the military will bring next. A mom in the military worries about deploying and how her kids will manage once she does. The feeling of guilt emerges for making career choices that take a mother away from her family. In Military and Mindful, mothers in the military learn how to balance their military career and motherhood without the feelings of guilt or stress. Unlike any other resource currently available for active-duty moms, Military and Mindful offers a template to unleashing one’s internal power. In addition to promoting a focused and positive mindset, Benefsheh Verell reveals how harnessing one’s internal power is essential to living a First-Class life.

In Power Coupling, Katherine McClelland applies thirty years of coaching and training to share a step-by-step guide that helps readers alleviate the challenges of balancing their life and igniting their inner passion. It helps readers feel the sense of their power, impact, and influence as they learn and apply the material suggested within. Within Power Coupling, readers learn:

In Do I Need a Divorce to Be Happy?, Teri Grayner guides those who have spent their lives focusing on other people’s happiness to put themselves first without guilt. Her 10-Step REINVENTED Process covers everything one needs to learn to break free from financial codependency. Instead of spending years trying to balance marriage and one’s own dreams, open Do I Need a Divorce to Be Happy? because within readers learn:

Beyond Messy Relationships: Divine Invitations to Your Authentic Self

. . . is not only an intense and dramatic memoir. It is a mixture of psychological wisdom and spiritual inspiration.

Judy K. Herman brings hope through her formula of breathing in fresh A.I.R. The acronym for Awareness, Intentionality, and Risks of growth. 

Beyond Messy Relationships helps you learn to forgive and remember. You'll see that relationships are mirrors to your soul. They show us our blind spots giving us the ability to courageously grow and grow up. Emotions are valuable messengers designed to move and flow. 

Topics you'll discover include the messes beyond: 

• post-divorce issues
• single parenting and remarriage
• imposter syndrome
• betrayal and recovery

You'll learn to identify your own relationship dances (patterns) outlined in Beyond Messy Relationships. More importantly, you'll be able to co-create a different dance for a more resilient and growing relationship. 

• Discover you're not alone as you resonate with the messy relationships of a psychotherapist along with valuable life-lessons.
• Learn a simple formula breathing fresh A.I.R. to experience freedom from guilt and regret.
• Gain insights that inspire positive changes that last.
• Become shame resilient.
• Discover your true self and find joy beyond your messy relationships.

Since the book was released in September of 2019, there is now a different epilogue that became catalysts for more resources. 

To find out more about the story Beyond Messy Relationships get Judy's second book, Relationships With Purpose and tune into her podcast Better Relationships, Better Life. The books and podcast are great supplements to your own therapy if you are receiving psychotherapy. Both are also great book club discussions. Ask for the resource "Questions to Ponder."  

Judy has a growing youtube channel with teaching videos and interviews to help you with gain relationship strategies, tips and tools. 

Relationship is the natural state of being human and is fundamental to everyone’s experience of being known, valued, and fulfilled. So how is it that many relationships which begin with love or friendship turn sour … or even collapse?

In straightforward, lighthearted language, founders of RelationshipByDesign™ Lon and Sandy Golnick guide couples on a journey through their own experience, rather than feeding them data from endless studies of others in an attempt to help understand their own relationship. Readers discover how they were destined to experience disappointments, upsets, and frustrations in a relationship and why attempts to improve, fix, or change their relationship, their partner, and themselves only exacerbate the problems. Lon and Sandy disclose hidden truths about the nature and design of relationship and illuminate previously unseen mechanisms that undermine all relationships. Relationship: The Real Deal is an opportunity for couples to break free of relationship killers and experience freedom—a pathway for creating new relationship unfettered by the past.

Addressing the common issues in relationships, Shirley helps women realize that by understanding the needs of their man, changing their perception, and shifting how they act in the relationship, they have the power to create whatever they want. Get What You Want from Your Man is written by a woman, for women, yet includes both men’s and women’s perspectives to help women of all ages and stages of relationship. Whether readers have been in a relationship for 50 years, or haven’t yet begun one, Shirley holds their hand along the journey and helps create a permanent change in how women see and relate to their man, so they can get way more from him than ever thought possible. Best of all, this is all accomplished without encouraging manipulation, head games, or women losing themselves in the process of creating the relationship of their dreams.

Nordic countries lead the way in facilitating better work-family integration through their design of parental leave policies that encourage men towards life courses with greater care responsibilities.

Based on original research, this compelling book offers a novel analysis of the everyday parental practices of fathers and parents in Norway as a way of understanding the workings of labour market and welfare policies, whilst considering how migrant fathers might relate to the expectations such laws generate. The authors showcase how this style of men’s care work constitutes a re-gendering of men by promoting ‘caring masculinities’.

Nordic countries lead the way in facilitating better work-family integration through their design of parental leave policies that encourage men towards life courses with greater care responsibilities.

Based on original research, this compelling book offers a novel analysis of the everyday parental practices of fathers and parents in Norway as a way of understanding the workings of labour market and welfare policies, whilst considering how migrant fathers might relate to the expectations such laws generate. The authors showcase how this style of men’s care work constitutes a re-gendering of men by promoting ‘caring masculinities’.

Rad Dad: Dispatches from the Frontiers of Fatherhood combines the best pieces from the award-winning zine Rad Dad and from the blog Daddy Dialectic, two kindred publications that have tried to explore parenting as political territory. Both of these projects have pushed the conversation around fathering beyond the safe, apolitical focus most books and websites stick to; they have not been complacent but have worked hard to create a diverse, multi-faceted space in which to grapple with the complexity of fathering.

Today more than ever, fatherhood demands constant improvisation, risk, and struggle. With grace and honesty and strength, Rad Dad’s writers tackle all the issues that other parenting guides are afraid to touch: the brutalities, beauties, and politics of the birth experience, the challenges of parenting on an equal basis with mothers, the tests faced by transgendered and gay fathers, the emotions of sperm donation, and parental confrontations with war, violence, racism, and incarceration. Rad Dad is for every father out in the real world trying to parent in ways that are loving, meaningful, authentic, and ultimately revolutionary.

Contributors Include:

Steve Almond, Jack Amoureux, Mike Araujo, Mark Andersen, Jeff Chang, Ta-Nehisi Coates, Jeff Conant, Sky Cosby, Jason Denzin, Cory Doctorow, Craig Elliott, Chip Gagnon, Keith Hennessy, David L. Hoyt, Simon Knapus, Ian MacKaye, Tomas Moniz, Zappa Montag, Raj Patel, Jeremy Adam Smith, Jason Sperber, Burke Stansbury, Shawn Taylor, Tata, Jeff West, and Mark Whiteley.

¿Estás o has estado en alguna relación con una persona que parece incapaz de conectarse emocionalmente, y te sientes frustrada por ello? Este libro revela las claves para identificar a las personas emocionalmente no disponibles y ofrece soluciones prácticas para manejar su relación con ellas.

¿Alguna vez te han dicho que eres «una dramas» o que te pones muy intensa? ¿Sufres por «esa persona» pero eres incapaz de dejarla ir? ¿Sientes a tu pareja distante y ajena a tus preocupaciones? Este libro te ayudará a entender que el problema no eres tú, sino que hay personas emocionalmente no disponibles que no pueden ofrecerte la conexión que necesitas.

Con la guía experta de la psicóloga Encarni Romero, descubrirás cómo desenredar los hilos de las relaciones románticas y liberarte de vínculos que no te hacen feliz. Superar la negación, la rabia, la culpa que estas relaciones te generan y llegar finalmente a la aceptación y el crecimiento personal no es tarea fácil, pero ¡no estás sola en este camino! Encarni te acompañará paso a paso para que puedas crear vínculos sanos y duraderos.

Si estás lista para cultivar un apego seguro y, lo más importante, emprender el viaje hacia el amor propio, cimiento esencial para cualquier relación exitosa, este libro será tu aliado indispensable. ¡Transforma tu vida emocional y empieza a construir las relaciones que mereces!

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Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who seems emotionally unavailable, and you feel frustrated because of it? This book reveals the keys to identifying emotionally unavailable people and offers practical solutions for managing relationships with them.

Have you ever been told you're "dramatic" or "too intense"? Do you suffer for "that person" but can't seem to let them go? Do you feel your partner is distant and indifferent to your concerns? This book will help you understand that the problem isn't you; there are emotionally unavailable people who can't offer the connection you need.

With the expert guidance of psychologist Encarni Romero, you'll learn how to untangle the threads of romantic relationships and free yourself from bonds that don't make you happy. Overcoming the denial, anger, and guilt these relationships generate, and finally reaching acceptance and personal growth, isn't easy, but you're not alone on this journey! Encarni will guide you step by step so you can create healthy, lasting bonds.

If you're ready to cultivate secure attachment and, most importantly, embark on the journey to self-love, the essential foundation for any successful relationship, this book will be your indispensable ally. Transform your emotional life and start building the relationships you deserve!

Crea relaciones auténticas sin dejar de ser tú.

Si alguna vez te has preguntado «¿Por qué no puedo encontrar el tipo de vínculo que anhelo?», «¿Soy una persona tóxica?», «¿Cómo saber si esta persona vale mi tiempo?» o la más importante de todas, «¿Qué hay de malo conmigo?», ¡felicidades!, tienes el libro correcto en tus manos.

Aceptémoslo, las citas son difíciles y nadie lo entiende mejor que Jeff Guenther, el terapeuta experto en relaciones amorosas que cuenta con más de 20 años de experiencia y una comunidad de cuatro millones de seguidores en redes sociales. Ya sea que estés buscando pareja, explorando tus vínculos y tu sexualidad, o tratando de descubrir qué app vale la pena y cuáles ya pasaron de moda, Jeff sabe cómo guiarte.

Esta es una guía fresca y cercana para que sobrevivas al amor moderno, con la que aprenderás a comunicar tus necesidades afectivas sin dejar de serle fiel a lo que eres. ¿Cuántas veces no has escuchado el mito de que para amar a alguien primero debes amarte a ti mismo? Aquí romperás con esa idea, pues el amor propio es un largo camino y no tenemos que esperar a terminarlo para amar a otra persona y, mucho menos, para que alguien nos ame así como somos.

¡Prepárate no solo para tener éxito en las citas, sino también para pasarla bien en el proceso!

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Create Authentic Relationships Without Losing Yourself.

If you've ever asked yourself, "Why can't I find the kind of connection I long for?", "Am I a toxic person?", "How do I know if this person is worth my time?" or, most importantly, "What's wrong with me?", congratulations! You have the right book in your hands.

Let's face it, dating is hard, and no one understands it better than Jeff Guenther, the relationship therapist with over 20 years of experience and a community of four million followers on social media. Whether you're looking for a partner, exploring your connections and sexuality, or trying to figure out which dating app is worth your time and which ones are outdated, Jeff knows how to guide you.

This is a fresh and approachable guide to surviving modern love, teaching you how to communicate your emotional needs without compromising who you are. How many times have you heard the myth that to love someone, you must first love yourself? Here, you'll break free from that idea, as self-love is a long journey, and we don't have to wait to finish it to love someone else, much less to be loved just as we are.

Get ready not only to succeed in dating but also to enjoy the process!

El amor verdadero todo lo sana y todo lo puede.

Las relaciones de pareja, cuando sanas, nos hacen sentir que hemos encontrado un hogar, e incluso nos pueden ayudar a mejorar física y emocionalmente. Pero, cuando el amor mal entendido se torna tóxico, su propia fuerza nos puede enfermar. Este libro explica qué es el amor, tanto propio como entre pareja, cómo el demostrarlo o aprender a recibirlo depende de nuestra crianza y nos ayuda a descubrir cuando las relaciones se tornan perjudiciales para nuestro estado físico, mental y emocional.

A través de distintas teorías de expertos y testimonios reales, incluyendo el de la propia autora, quien hoy ha sanado a través del amor, y de una decena de ejercicios que te ayudarán a indagar en tus emociones, Carolina Novoa Arias será tu guía para identificar tu propia definición del amor y las limitaciones que pudieran interferir en tu búsqueda de vínculos afectivos sanos y responsables.

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True love heals everything and can do anything.

Healthy romantic relationships make us feel like we’ve found a home and can even help us improve physically and emotionally. However, when misunderstood love turns toxic, its very strength can make us ill. This book explains what love is, both self-love and love between partners, how showing or learning to receive it depends on our upbringing, and helps us discover when relationships become harmful to our physical, mental, and emotional well-being.

Through various expert theories and real testimonies, including that of the author herself, who has healed through love, and a dozen exercises that will help you explore your emotions, Carolina Novoa Arias will be your guide to identifying your own definition of love and the limitations that might interfere with your search for healthy and responsible emotional bonds.

Hints for Lovers explores the romantic rules of engagement by providing a detailed strategy to help readers successfully navigate and improve their own personal relationships. It offers a light-hearted take on how to find and maintain love in any era.

The author frequently examines the fundamental differences between men and women and how they inform romantic expression. He dives into the psychology of relationships as well as the impact of intimacy such as kissing and making love. It’s a comprehensive analysis of courtship that ranges from dating to engagement and ultimately, marriage.

Published in 1909, Hints for Lovers is greatly influenced by the social constructs of the early twentieth century. The tongue-in-cheek anecdotes consist of many dating principles that are still relevant today. Arnold Haultain’s playful point of view makes for an entertaining and delightful read.

With an eye-catching new cover, and professionally typeset manuscript, this edition of Hints for Lovers is both modern and readable.

Since our inception in 2020, Mint Editions has kept sustainability and innovation at the forefront of our mission. Each and every Mint Edition title gets a fresh, professionally typeset manuscript and a dazzling new cover, all while maintaining the integrity of the original book.

With thousands of titles in our collection, we aim to spotlight diverse public domain works to help them find modern audiences. Mint Editions celebrates a breadth of literary works, curated from both canonical and overlooked classics from writers around the globe.

Falling in love is what everyone dreams of. Sustaining that love is the deal-breaker. 

People can’t sustain something they don’t fully understand, that they don’t know how to nurture, that they don’t know how to develop and grow.

The nine Enneagram types reveal that there are nine ways to love and receive love. Shown by both modern science and ancient wisdom, leaning into understanding oneself and others through the Enneagram leads to loving better and living more fully.

Enneagram expert and psychiatrist David Daniels, MD and certified Enneagram relationship teacher and coach Suzanne Dion present a relationship-changing guidebook packed with practical tips, specific guidance, and stories of working with couples on communication, anger, judgment, forgiveness, love, intimacy, and sexual fulfillment for all nine types.

This unique resource brings together the power of the Enneagram, relationship mindfulness, and a deep understanding of the nine Enneagram personality types to transform relationships from conflictual and struggling to harmonious and thriving.

Whether someone is seeking love and dating or is in an established relationship, The Enneagram, Relationships, and Intimacy will take them on a journey into themselves and others—a journey that will change their life.

Después de meses saliendo, ¿cómo saber si tu «casi algo» podría ser algo más? ¿Te encanta, pero hay red flags que quizá no estás viendo? ¿Mueres de ganas por enviar ese mensaje, pero no quieres verte intenso/a?

Toda la vida nos han dicho que el amor es una cuestión del destino, ¡pero es mentira! Okey, sí, las citas pueden ser difíciles y la química quizá no fluya tan rápido al inicio; sin embargo, hay asuntos que sí están en nuestras manos, por ejemplo, a quién elegimos para salir o la manera en que comunicamos lo que nos gusta y lo que no.

Con esta guía descubre las herramientas para escoger mejor a quién ligarte y a quién enviar directito a la banca. Spoiler alert: muy pocos casos en el amor tienen que ver con la suerte, la mayoría se debe a la habilidad para detectar lo que busca la otra persona y, más importante aún, lo que tú quieres encontrar.

Aquí nadie te juzgará si solo quieres pasarla bien mientras se pueda, tampoco te criticaremos si lo que deseas es mudarte con tu pareja o, de plano, cortar esa relación de la que ya te cansaste. Aquí estamos en confianza y te ayudaremos a ser sincero/a contigo mismo/a, a saber si estás buscando a alguien que realmente te guste o si tu ego quiere a alguien que te alabe, además de reconocer si te están aplicando el famoso lovebombing (demostraciones excesivas de atención y afecto), así como a dar el primer paso para encontrar el tipo de relación que quieres. 

Mientras tanto, ¡no le escribas a tu ex!

¿Qué significa que el único amor verdadero sea el amor imposible? ¿Es el amor lo que suponemos que es? O antes que eso, ¿es lo imposible aquello definido como lo inalcanzable, lo inconsumable, lo inenarrable? ¿Y si fueran las preguntas lo que hay que cambiar porque es en la imposibilidad del encuentro amoroso donde radica su verdad?
Este libro es una propuesta de deconstrucción radical sobre uno de los eventos más radicales de nuestra existencia. Ocho tesis que tienen el arrojo de devenir en una serie de desvelos, nuevas intuiciones, destellos que nos inviten a temblar. Es la puesta en página de una práctica política concreta, que increpa a ese amor comercial, romántico, que se nos vende como domi-nante, como único y normativo. Es ir a martillazos contra esa arquitectura sentimental sostenida por el sentido común, por definiciones y naturalezas forzadas. Y entonces, sí: categorías cristalizadas como la pareja, la familia, la media naranja y el primer amor, entre otras, son puestas en evidencia, caen bajo su propio peso: se rompen.
El amor es imposible conduce al insomnio, y de ahí a una revolución íntima y perturbadora comandada por el deseo genuino de la intranquilidad: no queremos estar en donde estamos. Un trabajo de años, de lecturas y de diálogos en el que Darío Sztajnszrajber pone una vez más, al alcance de quienes estén dispuestos a jugar el juego, las herramientas de la filosofía para desandar lo andado, rebelarse y exigir siempre, aunque suene a destiempo y desubicado, animarse a lo imposible.

Este no es un libro sobre lo que hay que hacer o lo que no hay que hacer en una relación de pareja. No habla de modelos ideales. Habla de relaciones diversas, con sus propias pautas y estilos de navegación. Pero también de aquellas cuestiones que habitualmente consiguen que las cosas funcionen o se estropeen en una pareja, y de los ingredientes que facilitan o dificultan construir una buena relación y mantenerla.

Este libro da pistas para que cada uno encuentre su fórmula, su modelo y su manera de vivir en pareja.

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10 years of Joan Garriga's classic, with more than 150,000 readers.

This is not a book about what to do or what not to do in a relationship. It does not talk about ideal models. It talks about diverse relationships, with their own patterns and navigation styles. But also about the issues that make or break a couple, and the ingredients that make it easier to build and maintain a good relationship.

This book gives each person clues to find their own formula, their own model and their own way of living as a couple.

¿Cómo piensan los hombres? ¿Qué sienten? ¿Qué les preocupa? ¿Cuáles son sus miedos, preocupaciones y conflictos?

En los últimos tiempos se ha hablado mucho sobre las relaciones tóxicas y cómo evitarlas, y estos mensajes nos han permitido salir de lugares que nos dañan para darnos cuenta de que el amor puede ser de otra manera. Sin embargo, una vez hecho todo ese camino para dejar atrás malos hábitos puede que nos enfrentemos al temido «¿y ahora qué?».

El libro que tienes en tus manos viene a solucionar esta pregunta. La psicóloga Paula Delgado, experta en responsabilidad afectiva y gestión emocional, nos brinda en estas páginas las herramientas necesarias para alinear nuestras relaciones con nuestros valores, comunicar nuestras necesidades de manera constructiva y marcar límites que nos permitan construir vínculos sanos. El objetivo es tratar de aportar claridad para aprender a gestionar nuestras relaciones desde el amor y el respeto, para aprender a amar bien y sentirnos bien queridos y escuchados.

El mejor juego de preguntas y respuestas para divertirse en pareja y descubrir cuánto se conocen realmente.

Este es el juego perfecto para que rían mientras recuerdan todo lo que han vivido, descubren cuánto se conocen en realidad y, quizás, se animen a hacer una que otra confesión.

Dividido en seis categorías, podrán avanzar por estas divertidas páginas y ponerse a prueba, además de desafiarse con diversos retos y recibir recompensas, como una cita sorpresa, una cena especial o un masaje que recorra su anatomía… y todo lo que se les ocurra.

¿Qué hace que el amor dure? ¿Existe una fórmula para construir un amor duradero? Los doctores John Gottman y Julie Schwartz Gottman, los terapeutas de pareja por antonomasia, nos enseñan a construir una relación duradera en solo 7 días. 

Los doctores Gottman llevan más de cincuenta años estudiando el amor y las relaciones de pareja con el objetivo de identificar los componentes básicos del amor.La receta para el amor convierte el trabajo de toda una vida en un plan de acción de siete días para conseguir una intimidad más profunda. A través de sus descubrimientos fundamentales, los Gottman nos guiarán en la construcción de un amor duradero con pasos fáciles y accesibles.

Las pequeñas acciones diarias nos ayudarán a mejorar nuestra relación. Este libro contiene soluciones eficaces para los problemas más comunes, desde la soledad y la desconexión emocional y física hasta el distanciamiento y la pérdida del sentimiento amoroso. 

No importa quién seas ni qué tipo de relación quieras fortalecer, La receta para el amor te proporcionará herramientas prácticas para potenciar cualquier vínculo de tu vida. Los Gottman demuestran que con pequeños cambios diarios en tan solo siete días se pueden fortalecer los cimientos de todas las relaciones, hacerlas florecer y crear grandes y duraderos cambios.

ENGLISH DESCRIPTION

What makes love last? Why does one couple stay together forever, while another falls apart? A simple yet powerful plan to transform your relationship in seven days. 

Drs. John Gottman and Julie Schwartz-Gottman are the world’s leading relationship scientists. For the past forty years, they have been studying love. They’ve gathered data on over three thousand couples, looking at everything from their body language to the way they converse to their stress hormone levels. 

La receta para el amor distills their work into a bite-size, sevenday action plan with easy, immediately actionable steps. There will be no grand gestures and no big, hard conversations. There’s nothing to buy or do to prepare.

Anyone can do this, from any starting point.

Walter Riso, experto en amor y relaciones, nos propone una nueva guía para saber si amamos a la persona adecuada.

¿Te ha pasado alguna vez que de tanto dar amor te has olvidado de tu persona, de tus sueños, tus ilusiones, tu vocación, tus valores y tus sentimientos más profundos, como si hubieras sufrido una metamorfosis? Este libro es para ti.

A lo largo de todos estos años como terapeuta, Walter Riso ha constatado con frecuencia que en nuestras relaciones de pareja nos acostumbramos a dar excesivamente y a recibir muy poco o nada de la persona que amamos, y lo normalizamos, como si fuera lo natural. Nos resignamos a una relación desequilibrada por la creencia de que el verdadero amor no espera nada a cambio, como si la ecuación amorosa solo tuviera un miembro.

Para Walter Riso, esto no debe ser así. Un amor saludable fluye, va y viene, uno siente y ve el afecto del otro y viceversa.

Este libro te llevará por varios caminos para que revises tu estilo afectivo, trates de equilibrar tu relación y analices si estás en el lugar equivocado. Es posible que tu visión del amor se vea cuestionada y quizás deje de ser la misma. En cualquier caso, aprenderás que el amor saludable y funcional requiere de un principio imprescindible: necesito quererme para quererte.

ENGLISH DESCRIPTION

Throughout all these years as a therapist, Walter Riso has often seen that in our relationships we get used to giving in excess and receiving very little or nothing from the person we love. And we see it as normal, as if it were the natural way. We settle ourselves for an unbalanced relationship because of the belief that true love expects nothing in return, as if the love equation only had one member. This book will take you through several paths so that you review your affective style, try to balance your relationship and see if you are in the wrong place. Probably your view of love will be challenged as you learn that healthy and functional love requires an essential principle: I need to love myself to love you.

Readers of Walter Riso who are looking to heal and work on their personal growth, fans of motivational and inspirational books that hold clinical arguments. Has it ever happened to you that from giving so much love you have forgotten your own self, your dreams, your illusions, your values and your deepest feelings as if you had undergone a metamorphosis? This book is for you.

Ama y no sufras lleva más allá lo que el autor expuso en ¿Amar o depender? No sólo se trata de amar sin apegos, que es un logro importante, sino de acabar con todo tipo de sufrimiento inútil relacionado con el amor. Sentir amor es más fácil que explicarlo, porque nadie nos ha educado para amar y ser amados, al menos de manera explícita. Habrá quienes digan que el amor no es para entenderlo, sino para sentirlo y disfrutarlo, y que el romanticismo no soporta ningún tipo de lógica: nada más erróneo.

Vívelo y disfruta de tu relación.

Even those who presume to be perfectly attached to their partner, in the deepest recesses of their being, harbor doubts and insecurities. Who hasn't suffered from being with the wrong person, because the flame goes out, or simply because of the caress that never came?

Ama y no sufras (Love and Don't Suffer) takes further what the author said in ¿Amar o depender? (Love or Depend?) It is not only about loving without attachments, which is a major achievement, but about ending all kinds of useless suffering related to love. Feeling love is easier than explaining it, because no one has educated us to love and be loved, at least not explicitly. There will be those who say that love is not to be understood, but to be felt and enjoyed, and that romanticism does not support any kind of logic: nothing could be more wrong.

 ¿Es posible amar a más de una persona a la vez? 

¿Puede la infidelidad ayudar a una pareja? 

En una cultura donde se ha sobrevalorado la entrega amorosa ilimitada, la vida en pareja se ha convertido en la principal forma de autorrealización. Un sentimentalismo exagerado ha hecho que se ignore el sacrificio personal que implica tal abnegación. Sin embargo, el amor no lo justifica todo.

A 2019 Nautilus Silver Book Award Winner

You can't fix what you don't see. But with awareness and the right tools, real change can and does happen.

No matter how hard we try, many of us struggle to make love work with our partners. The problem, as clinical psychologist Dr. Ron Frederick explains, is that our brains are running on outdated software. Without us knowing it, our early relationship programming causes us to fear being more emotionally present and authentic with our partners—precisely what’s needed to build loving connections. But we don’t have to remain prisoners to our past.

Grounded in cutting-edge neuroscience and attachment theory, Loving Like You Mean It shares a proven four-step approach to use emotional mindfulness to break free from old habits, befriend your emotional experience, and develop new ways of relating. The capacity for deep, loving connections is inside all of us, waiting to come out. By practicing the science behind loving like you mean it, your relationships can be fuller and richer than you ever imagined.

Since around 1750, we have been living in the era of Romanticism, which has shaped the way we approach love, marriage, and sex. When it comes to love, this book argues, Romanticism has been a disaster. Full of real-life examples, lively humor, and cultural anecdotes, Relationships teaches us: 

• That love and sex may not always go together (and that’s OK)
• That discussing money early on, in a serious way, is not a betrayal of love That acknowledging respective flaws can be a couple’s superpower
• That we will never find everything we need in another person
• That spending two hours discussing whether bathroom towels should be hung up or can be left on the floor has its own dignity

With wisdom, wit, and compassion, this innovative guide paves the way to a new, brighter future for love. Part of a new essential paperback series from The School of Life, covering a range of emotional lessons needed in order to lead fulfilled and happy lives.

• DOWN WITH ROMANTICISM! this book teaches you how to find love, and keep it—without rosy-colored glasses. 
• LEARN THE SKILL OF LOVE—AND LIVING WITH YOUR PARTNER’S FLAWS a refreshing, skills-based take on how to approach relationships, and be realistic about long term partnership. 
• PRACTICAL RELATIONSHIP ADVICE like why to talk about money early on, and how to find dignity in the dreary domestic details of life.
• CLASSIC BLACK & WHITE IMAGES throughout.
• PART OF THE NEW PAPERBACK SERIES 'LESSONS FOR LIFE'

Told as a series of reflections on her personal experiences, this is a bold manifesto by a brilliant young mind on our contemporary understanding of romantic love and how the contradictions of inherited traditions and technology affect the way we build relationships.

Born and raised in an Orthodox Jewish community in Buenos Aires, Argentina, Tamara Tenenbaum approached the sexual and affective habits of the secular world like an anthropologist discovering the ways of life of an unknown civilization.

Drawing from philosophy and feminist militancy, from conversations with friends and colleagues, and from an attempt to turn her own body and experience into a laboratory for both individual and collective reflection, Tenenbaum explores the challenges that young people today face at the start of their adult lives.

Tenenbaum examines the multiple dimensions of affection, from the value of friendship to the culture of consent, passing through motherhood as a choice or an imperative, desired and abhorred singlehood, polyamory, open relationships, and the workings of dating apps. Timely and illuminating, The End of Love celebrates the creative destruction of romantic relationships as we know them, and advocates for the rise of a better, freer love.