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A Safe Place for Women
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11 January 2011

There is life, joy, and love after abuse
As a young wife and mother, Kelly White experienced violence and terror at the hands of her husband. She knows firsthand the love–hate relationships women often have with their abusers and the devastating effects these feelings can have on independence and self-confidence. She has sought refuge in a women’s shelter, worked to obtain help from law enforcement and struggled financially and emotionally as a single mother and sole breadwinner.
Twenty-five years later, as the leader of nationally recognized programs for battered women, she has helped thousands of women and children rebuild their lives. White’s own story, and those of other women who have survived and thrived, are related here. She also provides practical tools for abused women and the friends, family and professionals who seek to help them. You learn to:
- recognize dangerous red flags and break through denial
- use the legal, law-enforcement and organizational resources available in your community
- overcome fear and stress to build a new life
- discover the ways in which you are more powerful, competent and capable than you thought
White includes important information on the impact of domestic violence on children, the role of drugs and alcohol in abuse, violence against people with disabilities and battering in the lesbian/gay/bisexual/transgendered communities. While violence against women is not a thing of the past, using this resource can help battered women make it a part of their pasts — and create a safe and fulfilling future for themselves and their children.
"...This book should be required reading for all board members of domestic-violence shelters." Julia Spann, Executive Director of SafePlace
"Kelly White's unique perspective as a survivor, activist, and service provider gives her readers a complex portrait of dreams gone awry and resilience in the face of hardship..." — Sunny Fischer, Co-founder of the Chicago Foundation for Women and antiviolence activist
"...a compelling and heroic personal and professional account of survivorship and triumph. Her insights into the impact of trauma and the resolve that exist deeply within humans are brilliant..." Noel Bridget Busch-Armendariz, PhD, LMSW, MPA, Associate Professor and Director, School of Social Work, Institute on Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault
"...This book is well-written and informative. It is also heartfelt and persuasive..." ForeWord Magazine
Acknowledgments
Introduction
My Story: Surviving an Abusive Marriage
Surviving and Speaking Out: Building My Life Free From Violence
Defining the Problem of Domestic Abuse
Generations
Who is at Risk?
Survivors: Much More than Former Victims
The Batterer
The Youngest Survivors: Children and Domestic Violence
Shelters
Beyond Shelters
Lessons Learned from Survivors
Building Alliances
Lessons Learned Through Leading Domestic-Violence Programs
Our Work Isn't Done
Notes
Resources
Index