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Is Your Self-Esteem Other-Dependent?
Are you unhappy and don't know why or how to fix it?
Do you compare yourself to others and end up feeling bad about yourself?
Do you worry about what others think about you?
Is being successful and having it all not enough?
Have you given up on yourself?
If your answer is yes to any of the above, you may have other-dependent esteem. According to licensed counselor and self-esteem expert Patricia Noll, other-dependent esteem means that our happiness and self-worth depend upon something outside of ourselves, such as:
- what we have, do, and know
- what others think about us
- looking good
- being right
- achievements and accomplishments
- being the best
- and more.
The problem is that nothing outside of ourselves can truly make us happy-at least not for long. Other-dependent esteem creates a cycle of stress, addictive behavior, dependency, and ultimately deep unhappiness.
In Good With Me, Noll presents the same revolutionary approach that has helped her clients at Focus One shift from other-dependent esteem to true, self-dependent esteem-and experience freedom from crippling effects of other-dependency. This simple, practical, step-by-step solution will also help you finally achieve lasting happiness from the inside out, regardless of circumstances.
Patricia Noll is a licensed mental health counselor, certified addictions professional, and acupuncture physician. As the founder of Focus One, an outpatient substance abuse program licensed by the stat
e of Florida since 1989, Noll specializes in addressing self-esteem as the root of all addiction. She has appeared on television as an addictions expert, and her addiction treatment manual has received endorsements from Deepak Chopra, Larry Dossey, Jack Kornfield, and Jacquelyn Small. Her mission is to help build a society based on true self-esteem, solving the global challenges created by our other-dependent society one person at a time.
Patricia Noll is a licensed mental health counselor, certified addictions professional, and acupuncture physician. Founder of Focus One, a state-licensed outpatient substance abuse program, Noll has specialized in addressing self-esteem as the root of all addiction since 1989. She has appeared on television as an addictions expert, and her addiction treatment manual has received endorsements from Deepak Chopra, Larry Dossey, Jack Kornfield, and Jacquelyn Small.
On a Personal Note
Acknowledgments
Introduction
Chapter One: So You Want to Be Happy
Part One: Life Inside My Box
Chapter Two: The Two Esteems
Chapter Three: Self-Dependent Esteem
Chapter Four: Other-Dependent Esteem
Chapter Five: The Four Attachments
Chapter Six: Attachment #1: The Need for Approval from Others
Chapter Seven: Attachment #2: The Need to Look Good
Chapter Eight: Attachment #3: The Need to Be Right
Chapter Nine: Attachment #4: The Need to Control the Outcome
Chapter Ten: Thinking Makes It So
Chapter Eleven: So You Think?
Chapter Twelve: Sick with Worry
Chapter Thirteen: My Stress Is Killing Me!
Chapter Fourteen: Don't Manage the Damage
Part Two: How Did I End Up in My Box?
Chapter Fifteen: The Two Happys
Chapter Sixteen: Unhappiness: The Price of Other-Dependent Needs Chapter Seventeen: I Don't Have an Addiction, Do I?
Chapter Eighteen: What's My Problem?
Chapter Nineteen: The Escape Artists
Chapter Twenty: The New Normal
Chapter Twenty-One: The Feel-Good-Now Syndrome
Chapter Twenty-Two: The Great Pretenders
Chapter Twenty-Three: Different Just Like You
Chapter Twenty-Four: Get in Where You Fit In
Chapter Twenty-Five: It's All About Me
Part Three: Coming Out of My Box
Chapter Twenty-Six: What a Difference a Thought Makes
Chapter Twenty-Seven: Celebrate Me!
Chapter Twenty-Eight: Positive-Up!
Chapter Twenty-Nine: Practice Makes Better
Chapter Thirty: Deliberate Intentional Practice Makes Better Faster Chapter Thirty-One: Repetition Works
Chapter Thirty-Two: The Measures of Success
Chapter Thirty-Three: Word Power
Part Four: I'm Out of My Box!
Chapter Thirty-Four: Me First, You Second
Chapter Thirty-Five: What Fun It Is!
Chapter Thirty-Six: It Is What It Is
Chapter Thirty-Seven: Happy, Happy, Happy!
Chapter Thirty-Eight: Go Me!
Good With Me Resources
Exploration and Discovery
Index
About the Author
Notes