'I lost my husband and two of my four children on the same day. They left in the morning as usual, the girls happily following their Dad out of the door, and they didn't come back.' When her fine Christian husband walked out, after 22 years of marriage, Jen Croly was devastated. Painfully she tried to rebuild her life, stitch together her shattered confidence and discover who she was. She clung to her faith: 'Even when I could barely believe in God, God went on believing in me.' During the tough process of recovery she looked for a really candid, helpful book, but found most volumes horribly patronising. Here is what she sought: a book by someone who had survived the experience. She deals with practical questions: How do you tell other people? Whom can you trust? What is your name? What about the family? What about money, car maintenance? What about dating?