"With thorough research and a clear narrative style, Rickert and Zanin dole out facts and advice that readers can turn to again and again at any point throughout their polyamory journey. A smart, compassionate resource for anyone who’s ever wondered about polyamory."—Kirkus

"In place of dominant and oppressive-for-so-many relationship norms, Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin offer abundant possibilities that not only disrupt those norms, but that better meet the desires, needs, skills, and life conditions of the individual humans who are trying to love and relate as best we can in this challenging world."—from the foreword by Dr. Kim TallBear, Professor and Canada Research Chair in Indigenous Peoples, Technoscience and Society at the University of Alberta and the author of The Critical Polyamorist

"I wish I had had something like this when I was starting off in polyamory—it may have helped to counteract so many of the incorrect perceptions I had. I love that this book frames nonmonogamy in a realistic way, acknowledging the struggles we all go through without stigmatising the emotions that most people will understandably feel. I feel grounded by the honest acknowledgement of the experiences and background of both authors—you understand more where they are coming from, which is an aspect that I feel usually missing from a lot of starter books for people interested in nonmonogamous relationships. There are so many complexities to consider around nonmonogamy and this book does a truly great job of covering many bases extremely well."—Lola Phoenix, author of The Anxious Person's Guide to Nonmonogamy

"A true game changer in the field of nonmonogamy theory and education. Rickert and Zanin have crafted a smart, thorough, compassionate book that tackles many issues, including those others shy away from including misconduct and abuse. This book is useful for beginners and veterans alike and offers practical tools to nourish any kind of relationship."—Tristan Taormino, author of Opening Up

"More Than Two was a pivotal resource for me in the beginning of my nonmonogamy journey, and I am thrilled that a second edition is now available. Eve and Andrea's desire to create a resource that is practical, compassionate, conscientious, aware, educational, kind, and loving can be felt on every page and in every word. I am beyond excited to discover how this edition impacts me as a more mature nonmonogamous person and that it exists as a resource to aid a new generation of nonmonogamous persons."—Evita "Lavitaloca" Sawyers, author of A Polyamory Devotional

"More Than Two was intensely formative in my polyamory journey. The second edition keeps the practical throughline that makes the book effective and unique while adding even more depth and compassion. While we all carve our own paths and learn experientially, More Than Two, Second Edition is an indispensable guide through the terrain of nonmonogamy."—Shay Tiziano, author of Tying & Flying and Creating Captivating Classes

"While More Than Two was always highly regarded, it was time for an update to adjust for the way the landscape has changed in the last decade. This more than meets the need."—Kevin A. Patterson, M.Ed, author of Love's Not Color Blind and the For Hire series

"Rickert and Zanin accomplish a tricky task, discussing an often-misunderstood topic like nonmonogamy in a direct but respectful manner. Without holding nonmonogamy up as in any way as superior to monogamy, they offer their readers a glimpse at the reality that nonmonogamy can hold within it as much joy and fullfillment for some as monogamy does for others."—Race Bannon, author of Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun BDSM Lovemaking

"In its new incarnation, More Than Two is one of the best and most important contemporary books about love and relationships out there. It is essential reading, not only for those who are (or wonder if they are) nonmonogamous, but for their friends and families, and ultimately for anyone who wants to think carefully and deeply about what it means to love and respect one's partner(s). This book tackles a series of fraught—but urgent—ethical questions about how we behave towards those with whom we share our intimate lives, and it does so with exceptional sensitivity and nuance."—Carrie Jenkins, author of What Love Is (and What it Could Be)

"Get ready to engage in honest discussions about difficult subjects without cheerleading or boosterism. More Than Two, Second Edition is both warmhearted and clear-eyed. Recommended for existing practitioners and those curious about getting started."—Marcus McCann, author of Park Cruising

"Leaves no stone unturned in offering guidance for weathering the highs, lows, and in-betweens of nonmonogamy. Monogamous folks will find a lot to value here, too: insights into growth and change, building trust, communication skills, and real talk about abuse, all written with great empathy and awareness of our very human vulnerabilities. A classic relationship book for everyone."—Mo Daviau, author of Every Anxious Wave

"In the years since the publication of More Than Two, the world has changed, we have changed, and, for many of us, the way we see that book has changed. Eve and Andrea have done something truly remarkable in taking what was good from the original edition and updating it to create a nonmonogamy resource for a new era; one that is full of wisdom, kindness, awareness, compassion, empathy, and useful practical information."—JoEllen Notte, author of The Monster Under the Bed

"This is essential reading for anyone who wants to date humans and not be an asshole, whether you practice polyamory or not. I will no longer be dating people who have not read this book."—Rachel Lark, writer and musician

"This second edition of More Than Two revisits a popular nonmonogamy guide and deeply enriches it with experience, compassion, and gentleness towards people who are exploring the world of nonmonogamous intimacy. Whether your nonmonogamy is flavored more like relationship anarchy or polyamory, whether you are solo or multiply partnered, whether you're asexual or allosexual, there is quality information here that will help you navigate love in all its forms."—Kitty Stryker, author of Love Rebels

"An essential resource for anyone seeking to cultivate love and connection in all its forms."—Laura Antoniou, author of The Killer Wore Leather

"Whether you're new to exploring or looking for a sound refresh, this book is ready to walk you down the enriching and well-trodden pathways to opening up."—Leigh Cowart, author of Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose

"When the first version of More Than Two came out, many referred to it as the poly Bible. I like to think that we've all collectively learned a lot since then, and it's nice to see a new incarnation of this book that has grown with us and been fine-tuned to address many more nuances."—Tikva Wolf, creator of Kimchi Cuddles

"In More Than Two, Second Edition Eve and Andrea have revitalized the original, making it a new essential book. Never preaching or condemning, they explain, examine, and explore in dialog with the reader. They reach out welcoming hands, saying not to be afraid of this lifestyle and that you can do it."—Cooper S. Beckett, author of Life on the Swingset and co-author of The Pegging Book

"At last, an update to a classic! It's wonderful to see this edition cover intersectionality and touch on more nuance and diversity within nonmonogamy. I'm so excited to recommend this book to anyone interested in nonmonogamy, even those who've been practicing for years."—Michelle Hynonmonogamy educator, Polyamorous While Asian

"More Than Two: Second Edition doesn't try to be a manual, a course, a quick reference, or a casual read, but it somehow reads as all of those and more. Eve and Andrea keep it accessible to people both new and experienced in multiple relationships by providing context, meaning, and history behind the language and jargon surrounding relationships, intimacy, and communication."—Dylan T. Thomas, co-host of Life on the Swingset

Foreword
Eve’s Preface and Acknowledgements
Andrea’s Preface and Acknowledgements
Introduction
Part 1: Laying Your Foundation

1: Choosing Nonmonogamy

2: Finding Your Compass (or, Don’t Be Mean)

3: Abuse

Part 2: A Nonmonogamy Toolkit

4: Tending Your Self

5: Nurturing Your Relationships

6: Communication Pitfalls

7: Communication Strategies

8: Befriending the Green-Eyed Monster

Part 3: Nonmonogamous Frameworks

9: Boundaries

10: Rules and Agreements

11: Hierarchy and Primary/Secondary Polyamory

12: Veto Arrangements

13: Empowered Relationships

14: Practical Nonmonogamy Agreements

Part 4: The Nonmonogamous Reality

15: How Nonmonogamous Relationships Are Different

16: Opening from a Couple

17: Mono/Poly Relationships

18: Finding Partners

19: Life in the Polycule

20: Sex, Pleasure, Risk and Health

21: Relationship Transitions

The Future of Nonmonogamy
Glossary
Notes
Resources
Index