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Divorce book for women ─ Take back your power and create a new and better life
What women often face in a divorce: Feelings of loss, grief, and rage are common during divorce. But one of the most debilitating feelings women going through divorce experience is paralyzing impotence. While a woman may act forcefully to protect her children during the process, she is less likely to be as vigilant about her own well-being. Sadly, many divorce professionals ─ lawyers, mediators, forensic accountants, and therapists ─ prey upon women who are dealing with this life-changing experience.
Enter family law attorney Ann E. Grant: Ann Grant, author of The Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot, began her career as a corporate litigator specializing in unfair business practices and consumer fraud. After her divorce, she created her own firm, focusing on family law and a holistic approach to this life transition. She lives and practices in Manhattan Beach, California.
“My purpose is to help you not just survive divorce, but to obtain what you need to thrive as you begin to create your new story.” In The Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot, Ann Grant will help you take back your power by clarifying your rights concerning finances, home, children, and work life. She does this with a combination of empathy and practicality, recognizing how difficult some actions may be. Her step-by-step assessments, checklists, and to-do lists are always broken down and made manageable. Grant’s goal is to give readers what she provides her clients: Insider information that will not only make their divorce “successful” but also establish their own lives firmly and successfully on a positive, fresh new standing.
- Take action
- Learn what you need to know
- Take back your power
- And, create a new and better life
If you have read Divorce Poison, A Parent’s Guide to Divorce, or Putting Children First, you will want to read The Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot.
— Midwest Book Review
“The Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot is terrific; it’s the quintessential road map for meeting change with courage and developing the skills to create a new life.”
— Linda Graham, MFT, author of Bouncing Back
“Wow! This is the comprehensive guide to everything you need to know about surviving a divorce with your sanity in check and your checkbook intact.”
— Lois P. Frankel, PhD, author of Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office
“Ann Grant encourages divorcing women to ‘be better, not bitter.’ With her compassionate and levelheaded advice, she shows you how to reclaim your power, cultivate well-being, and forge a path to a better life.”
— Christine Hassler, author of Expectation Hangover
Introduction
Part 1: Take Control of Your Future
Chapter 1: Preparing to Get What You Need
Divorce Hacks
Get Money Wise
Copy Financial Documents
Know the Three Ways to Get Divorced
Build a Winning Team
Find a Lawyer
Consider Your Work Life
Handling Issues Concerning Your Children
Consider Your Living Situation
Familiarize Yourself with the Fair Market Value of Your Home
Create a Mindfulness Practice
Part 2: From Filing to Divorce Decree
Chapter 2: Taking Action
Divorce Hacks
File First
Regain Control if Your Husband Filed First
Retain Counsel
When to Utilize a Divorce Financial Planner
Establish and Build Your Credit
Be Your Own Boss
How and When to Tell Children You Are Divorcing
Check Alternative Housing Options in Your Area
Seek Help
Chapter 3: Setting the Tone
Divorce Hacks
Consider the Options Regarding Notifying Your Husband and Serving the Divorce Papers
Divorcing a Narcissist
Establishing the Marital Standard of Living
Consider Working Remotely
Be the Grown Up
Considering What to Do About the Family Home
Essentials v. Nonessentials
Chapter 4: Digging In
Divorce Hacks
Preparing Your Financial Disclosures
Handling a Bullying Partner During Your Divorce
How to Handle the Suddenly Income Deficient Spouse (SIDS_
Vocational Examination
Deciding What to Do About the Family Home
How to Handle the Child Who is Acting Out
Moving Through the Grieving Process During Divorce
Chapter 5: Getting What You Need
Divorce Hacks
Temporary Support
Attorney Fees
Social Media
Parenting Plan
Handling Your Emotions When Selling Your Home
Gratitude
Chapter 6: Settlement
Divorce Hacks
Negotiate from a Position of Strength
Mediation
Forensic Accountants
Get to Work
Parenting Plan
Get Appraised
Radical Acceptance
Chapter 7: Taking Charge
Divorce Hacks
Take Control of Your Finances
Preparation of the Final Divorce Decree
Qualified Domestic Relations Order (“QDRO”)
Crank Up the Income
How to Handle the New Girlfriend
Downsizing
Grit
Part 3: Starting Fresh
Chapter 8: Moving Forward
Divorce Hacks
Organize Your Financial Affairs
After the Divorce Decree is Final, How to Avoid Ending Up Back in Court
Launch Your Own Business
Effective Single Parenting
At Home in Your Home
Be Better, Not Bitter
Conclusion
Acknowledgments
About the Author
Index