“The EROS Equation, Eve Hogan’s best work to date, holds the secret for transforming relationships and lives from drama-driven to spirit-driven, from ego-based to wisdom-based. All this happens in one simple choice to honor our authentic selves—no matter what. Eve is a master at showing us how and has wowed me for years.”
—Lisa Nichols, author of No Matter What, expert in The Secret

“Creativity is seldom recognized as a critical ingredient for healthy relationships. In The EROS Equation, Eve Hogan shares how to tap into our creative spirit to solve problems from higher levels of creative consciousness. A powerful perspective.”
—Barnet Bain, producer of What Dreams May Come and The Celestine Prophecy, co-host of Cutting Edge Consciousness Radio

“Simple, eloquent and captivating. I recommend this book. Highly.”
—Greg S. Reid, best-selling author/filmmaker

“What I love most about The EROS Equation is Eve's ability to meet people where they are. Then she elegantly offers subtle egoless ‘Invitations’ that allow the reader to reflect upon what emotional state best serves their well being.”
—Lisa Lockwood, author of Reinventing You: The 10 Best Ways to Launch Your Dream Career

“If A.R.T. is an acronym, The EROS Equation is a work of ART. In it, Eve offers a deep Awareness of whole truth, a continuous commitment to Refining the soul and helping others do the same, and a unique process of Transformation that can take anyone from where we are to where we want to be. Eve is truly an artist of being fully alive and shows us how to make our relationships our masterpieces.”
—Dan Clark, CSP, CPAE Hall of Fame speaker, New York Times best-selling author, founder/CEO of The Art of Significance Leadership Development Corporation

“The EROS Equation is amazing! Serious seekers of a passionate, purposeful life must read Eve Hogan's masterful collection of REAL wisdom. This book connects the dots. I'm blown away . . . and you will be too.”
—David M. Corbin, author of Illluminate: Harnessing The Positive Power of Negative Thinking

“Eve is a special soul and her work has had a profound effect on my personal journey. Now The EROS Equation can have a profound impact on you! This book contains what everyone wants to know—how to make relationships work. This book should be required reading for everyone.”
—David Stanley, writer/producer and author of Conversations with the King: Journals of Apprentice

“Like the gentle voice and outstretched hand of a loving friend, your greatest success is Eve’s only concern. Your heart, your home and your happiness depend on you. Your journey to the best in life and love begins and ends with you. The EROS principles are here to guide you. Start now!”
—Lauren Solomon, award-winning image and style expert, best-selling author, speaker, and president of LS Image Associates, Inc.

“If you read, listen and act on the wisdom of this remarkable, well-written, funny, engaging book, you will have transformation. You will have happier relationships, and you will smile more. I sincerely believe that if this book was required reading the world and even the readers of Spirituality and Health Magazine would get the transformation that they are asking for.”
—Paul Sutherland, publisher of Spirituality and Health Magazine, author of Virtues of Wealth

“This illuminating book is filled with uncommon sense. Eve Hogan offers a penetrating understanding of what makes relationships great. Anyone who absorbs these rich principles and puts them into action will grow and advance immeasurably in the most important relationships.”
—Alan Cohen, author of Don’t Get Lucky, Get Smart

“The EROS Equation puts love back where it belongs; on the top of everyone’s priority list! The perfect combination of head and heart that adds up to accessing your own genius at love. Hogan’s a bonafide relationship connoisseur bent on helping every last one of us find and enjoy true love!”
—Maryanne Comaroto, talk show host and author

“Eve Hogan has mastered the base line of behavioral psychology and the classic ERO model and by actually living it has evolved it into the EROS Model—WOW! Seldom do you actually get to read powerful words from someone who actually lives them, here Eve takes you from where you are to where you must be to actualize life’s greatest present—LOVE! This book and Eve’s Six Simple Principles make application and accelerated life growth attainable. Get it, read it, live it!”
—Dr. Jeffrey Magee, PDM, CSP, CMC, publisher and best-selling author

“The EROS Equation is the ultimate book on relationships and personal growth. Eve leads relationship education and teaches beside such notables as Lisa Nichols, Les Brown, Bob Proctor, Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, T. Harv Ecker, Bob Circosta of Home Shopping Network, and Sharon Lechter, along with 'me.' This book is a game changer for all of us.”
—Berny Dohrmann, Chairman CEO SPACE, author of Redemption: The Cooperation Revolution

Eve Eschner Hogan is an inspirational speaker and author specializing in creating healthy relationships — in the workplace, the home, and the heart. She is the author of multiple books, including Way of the Winding Path, How to Love Your Marriage, Virtual Foreplay, and Intellectual Foreplay, and she is a relationship columnist for Spirituality and Health Magazine. Hogan is also the Executive Director of the Divine Nature Alliance, a 501(c)3 public charity that runs The Sacred Garden on Maui and the Peace Starts Here Project. She is the owner of Heart Path Journeys, which offers personalized, private retreats on Maui, and the co-owner of Makena Coast Dive Charters. With a master’s degree in Confluent Education and a teaching credential, Hogan has served as a relationship adviser for newspapers, magazines, and websites for more than 15 years. A relationship coach for individuals, couples, families, and organizations, she lives in Maui, HI.
Jack Canfield is the coauthor of the best-selling Chicken Soup for the Soul series. He lives in Los Angeles, CA.

Introduction

EROS—The God of Love
Why Love Is Not Enough

Common Sense, Uncommon Knowledge
A Blueprint of the Human Being
Life Strategies that Don’t Work on Love
Powerful Relationship Principles

Just Because You Believe It, Doesn’t Mean It Is True
What Are Your Love Beliefs?
Believing Isn’t Attractive, Choices Are

Reawakening to Who You Are
The Golden Buddha
Self-Esteem, an Over-Used Phrase for an Under-Experienced Quality
Finding Your Power
A Prescription for Self-Strengthening
Resilience Training
Values—Guideposts to the Goal

Uncommon Knowledge
Learning to Appreciate the Ego
Commitment—The Ego Trigger
Being an Ego Magnet
Clearing the Blocks to Being Loved
Clearing the Blocks to Being Loving
Developing a Self-Talk Interpreter
Victim No More
The Beauty of Fear
What Do You Treasure?

The EROS Equation
What Is Your Target
Everyone Else and Everything External
Response—Ability
Outcome
Solutions
When the Grass Is Greener
Four Response Options
Negotiate
Resist What Is
Get Out
Acknowledge and Accept What Is
Step Into Creativity, Step Into Love

Five Essential Life and Love Skills
Remember Who You Are and What You Want
Self-Observe
Transcend the Ego Needs
Reconnect, Re-calibrate
Choose Aligned Actions

Creating a No Drama Zone
Stop Playing the Blame Game
Integrity Choices
Transforming Anger Into Love and Understanding
The Flag on the Mountain Top of Emotions
Letting Go of Resistance

Applying EROS to Dating

Applying EROS to Getting Married

Applying EROS to Chores

Applying EROS to Preferences

Applying EROS to Money

Applying EROS to Health

Applying EROS to Monogamy

Applying EROS to Sex

When the Equation Doesn’t Add Up
Managing Mental Health and Substance Abuse in Relationships

A Practice Makes You Stronger

The Power of the Moment

A Breath Away