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Rather than let disconnection bring your relationship down, learn to repair, reconnect, and thrive with your partner through the UPLIFT Program.
If you’re feeling disconnected from your partner, even though you care deeply about each other, you’re not alone. It’s all too common for couples to get stuck in patterns of miscommunication, frustration, or emotional distance, and it can be hard to know how to move forward or create real change.
The Journey Back to Us offers a practical, research-based guide for rebuilding a stronger, more meaningful partnership. Drawing from her experience as a clinical psychologist, Dr. Shelley Sommerfeldt introduces the UPLIFT Program, a guide that gives you and your partner a clear, accessible path to reconnect and grow together.
As you move through the program, you’ll find real-life examples, reflective exercises, and guided conversations to help you better understand your emotional needs and take accountability for your part in your relationship. You’ll gain tools for communicating more openly, handling conflict in healthier ways, and rebuilding trust and intimacy. The UPLIFT Program is here to support you in letting go of old resentment and building a more intentional relationship rooted in appreciation, shared meaning, and emotional safety.
The Journey Back to Us will help you see that reconnecting with your partner is possible and within reach. Rather than offering quick fixes, this book gives you practical tools you can use every day to strengthen your bond, rebuild connection, and create lasting change together.
“Dr. Sommerfeldt has written a beautiful and insightful guide for couples looking to reconnect and strengthen their relationships. The Journey Back to Us combines clinical expertise with warmth, compassion, and practical tools to help couples rediscover intimacy and build a deeper, more fulfilling connection. A wonderful resource for couples at any stage of their relationship!" — Dr. Karen Stewart, Clinical Psychologist & Relationship and Sex Therapist
“Shelley Sommerfeldt has written a comprehensive self-help guide for struggling couples using an easy-to-remember acronym, 'UPLIFT,' to create a path to healing, reconnecting, and growing a relationship. This is my new go-to resource for couples!” —Veronique Warner, Psy.D., Licensed Psychologist
“Too often, couples mistake disconnection for the absence of love, when what they may be missing are the skills to nurture and sustain their relationship. Drawing on her clinical expertise, Dr. Shelley Sommerfeldt translates relationship science into practical, accessible strategies that help couples deepen self-awareness, communicate more effectively, and rebuild emotional intimacy. The Journey Back to Us is an empowering reminder that meaningful relationships don't happen by accident; they are built through intentional choices, mutual accountability, and consistent effort.” — Dr. Erica Holmes, Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Author, and Relationship Expert
“Dr Sommerfeldt translates the depth and complexity of her work with couples into an easy-to-follow and understand method for couples to assess and address the drift that erodes loving relationships. She offers tangible strategies and exercises for couples to reconnect and heal based on evidence-based models. Her UPLIFT program is a gift for couples who want to show up for each other but don’t know where to start.” —Whitney Boole, MA, LMFT, owner of Beach Cities Psychotherapy and author of You Got This: Healing Through Divorce
“The Journey Back to Us is a thoughtful, practical guide for any couple feeling the strain of daily life and looking to reconnect on a deeper level. Dr. Sommerfeldt does a great job of blending proven therapeutic techniques with actionable exercises that feel manageable rather than overwhelming. It’s a genuinely helpful resource for partners who are ready to put in the work to build a more intentional and fulfilling relationship.” —Sheyda Mia Melkonian, Psy.D, PMH.C., Clinical Psychologist at L.A. Psych
"This book is designed for couples who are motivated to make a meaningful change and enjoy learning about psychological growth. It serves as a practical guide to deeper self-awareness and more effective communication within a relationship."—Michelle Spearman, PhD, Clinical Psychologist
"The Journey Back to Us meets couples where real love actually lives, in the daily practice of choosing each other again. Shelley Sommerfeldt offers a clear, compassionate path from disconnection back to closeness, and the honesty to remind us the work is never finished. A warm, practical guide for any couple ready to grow." —James and Rebecca Lockwood, founders of The Thriving Couple
Shelley Sommerfeldt, PsyD, is a licensed clinical psychologist, relationship coach, and the founder of the Loving Roots Project, a psychotherapy practice specializing in relationship-based work. With more than twenty years of experience in the mental health field, she created the UPLIFT program, a practical framework designed to help couples repair disconnection, deepen emotional intimacy, and build more intentional and meaningful relationships.