“With thorough research and a clear narrative style, Rickert and Zanin dole out facts and advice that readers can turn to again and again at any point throughout their polyamory journey. A smart, compassionate resource for anyone who’s ever wondered about polyamory.”―Kirkus

“In place of dominant and oppressive-for-so-many relationship norms, Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin offer abundant possibilities that not only disrupt those norms, but that better meet the desires, needs, skills, and life conditions of the individual humans who are trying to love and relate as best we can in this challenging world.”—from the foreword by Dr. Kim TallBear, Professor and Canada Research Chair in Indigenous Peoples, Technoscience and Society at the University of Alberta and the author of The Critical Polyamorist

“A true game changer in the field of nonmonogamy theory and education. Rickert and Zanin have crafted a smart, thorough, compassionate book that tackles many issues, including those others shy away from including misconduct and abuse. This book is useful for beginners and veterans alike and offers practical tools to nourish any kind of relationship.”—Tristan Taormino, author of Opening Up

“Eve and Andrea's desire to create a resource that is practical, compassionate, conscientious, aware, educational, kind, and loving can be felt on every page and in every word. I am beyond excited to discover how this book impacts me as a more mature nonmonogamous person and that it exists as a resource to aid a new generation of nonmonogamous persons."—Evita "Lavitaloca" Sawyers, author of A Polyamory Devotional

“More Than Two was intensely formative in my polyamory journey. This new work keeps the practical throughline that makes the book effective and unique while adding even more depth and compassion. While we all carve our own paths and learn experientially, The New More Than Two is an indispensable guide through the terrain of nonmonogamy.”—Shay Tiziano, author of Tying & Flying and Creating Captivating Classes

“While More Than Two was always highly regarded, it was time for an update to adjust for the way the landscape has changed in the last decade. The New More Than Two more than meets the need."—Kevin A. Patterson, M.Ed, author of Love's Not Color Blind

​​“Rickert and Zanin accomplish a tricky task, discussing an often-misunderstood topic in a direct but respectful manner. Without holding nonmonogamy up as in any way as superior to monogamy, they offer their readers a glimpse at the reality that nonmonogamy can hold as much joy and fulfillment for some as monogamy does for others.”—Race Bannon, author of Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun BDSM Lovemaking

“The New More Than Two is one of the best and most important contemporary books about love and relationships out there. It is essential reading, not only for those who are (or wonder if they are) nonmonogamous, but for their friends and families, and ultimately for anyone who wants to think carefully and deeply about what it means to love and respect one's partner(s)."—Carrie Jenkins, author of What Love Is (and What it Could Be)

"Get ready to engage in honest discussions about difficult subjects without cheerleading or boosterism. The New More Than Two is both warmhearted and clear-eyed. Recommended for existing practitioners and those curious about getting started."—Marcus McCann, author of Park Cruising

“Eve and Andrea have done something truly remarkable in taking what was good from the original edition and updating it to create a nonmonogamy resource for a new era; one that is full of wisdom, kindness, awareness, compassion, empathy, and useful practical information.”—JoEllen Notte, author of The Monster Under the Bed

“I wish I had had something like this when I was starting off in polyamory—it may have helped to counteract so many of the incorrect perceptions I had. I love that this book frames nonmonogamy in a realistic way, acknowledging the struggles we all go through without stigmatising the emotions that most people will understandably feel....There are so many complexities to consider around nonmonogamy and The New More Than Two does a truly great job of covering many bases extremely well.”—Lola Phoenix, author of The Anxious Person's Guide to Nonmonogamy

“The New More Than Two is essential reading for anyone who wants to date humans and not be an asshole, whether you practice polyamory or not. I will no longer be dating people who have not read this book."—Rachel Lark, writer and musician

“The New More Than Two revisits a popular nonmonogamy guide and deeply enriches it with experience, compassion, and gentleness towards people who are exploring the world of nonmonogamous intimacy. Whether your nonmonogamy is flavored more like relationship anarchy or polyamory, whether you are solo or multiply partnered, whether you're asexual or allosexual, there is quality information here that will help you navigate love in all its forms.”—Kitty Stryker, author of Love Rebels

“A captivating exploration of the complexities and joys of polyamory.”—Laura Antoniou, author of The Killer Wore Leather

“Whether you're new to exploring or looking for a sound refresh, this book is ready to walk you down the enriching and well-trodden pathways to opening up.”—Leigh Cowart, author of Hurts So Good

“When the first version of More Than Two came out, many referred to it as the poly Bible. I like to think that we've all collectively learned a lot since then, and it's nice to see a new incarnation of this book that has grown with us and been fine-tuned to address many more nuances. May we all continue to learn and grow, and keep noticing what is best for our own hearts, minds, and souls.”—Tikva Wolf, creator of Kimchi Cuddles comics

“At last, an update to a classic! It's wonderful to see this edition cover intersectionality and touch on more nuance and diversity within nonmonogamy. I’m so excited to recommend this book to anyone interested in nonmonogamy, even those who've been practicing for years.”—Michelle Hy, nonmonogamy educator, Polyamorous While Asian

“A powerful new addition to the library of ethical nonmonogamy and should be considered essential reading!"—Andre Shakti, polyamory pundit

“In The New More Than Two Eve and Andrea have revitalized the original, making it a new essential book. Never preaching or condemning, they explain, examine, and explore in dialog with the reader. They reach out welcoming hands, saying not to be afraid of this lifestyle and that you can do it.”—Cooper S. Beckett, author of My Life on the Swingset and co-author of The Pegging Book

"The authors have seamlessly incorporated important topics such as decolonization into their riveting discussion of nonmonogamous structures and values. This is the More Than Two for a new empathetic and radical audience."—Mainely Mandy, video essayist

“The New More Than Two is a much-needed expansion. A maturation, an improvement that is not just information, but heart and soul come to fruition. The authors have gone from ‘what you need to know’ to ‘what we have learned.’ Rickert and Zanin have given us the compassionate update that nonmonogamy, and the world, needed.”—Zach Budd, LMSW

“The New More Than Two doesn't try to be a manual, a course, a quick reference, or a casual read, but it somehow reads as all of those and more. Eve and Andrea keep it accessible to people both new and experienced in multiple relationships by providing context, meaning, and history behind the language and jargon surrounding relationships, intimacy, and communication."—Dylan T. Thomas, co-host of Life on the Swingset

Author's Note
Foreword
Eve’s Preface and Acknowledgements
Andrea’s Preface and Acknowledgements
Introduction
Part 1: Laying Your Foundation

1: Choosing Nonmonogamy
2: Finding Your Compass (or, Don’t Be Mean)
3: Abuse

Part 2: A Nonmonogamy Toolkit

4: Tending Your Self
5: Nurturing Your Relationships
6: Communication Pitfalls
7: Communication Strategies
8: Befriending the Green-Eyed Monster

Part 3: Nonmonogamous Frameworks

9: Boundaries
10: Rules and Agreements
11: Hierarchy and Primary/Secondary Polyamory
12: Veto Arrangements
13: Empowered Relationships
14: Practical Nonmonogamy Agreements

Part 4: The Nonmonogamous Reality

15: How Nonmonogamous Relationships Are Different
16: Opening from a Couple
17: Mono/Poly Relationships
18: Finding Partners
19: Life in the Polycule
20: Sex, Pleasure, Risk and Health
21: Relationship Transitions

The Future of Nonmonogamy
Afterword
Glossary
Notes
Resources
Index