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The New More Than Two
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20 October 2026

A manual for loving justly in a complex, power-laden world.
A decade after the celebrated but controversial 2014 book, The New More Than Two is More Than Two for the post-#MeToo era. The entirely rewritten The New More Than Two represents a complete conceptual reorientation focused on care, mutual accountability and empathy. It rejects hyper-autonomy as a distortion of earlier polyamory discourse, introduces explicit material on abuse in a nonmonogamous context, and situates its ethical analysis within a context of systemic power structures such as gender, colonialism and race.
In this transformative collaboration, Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin bring together decades-deep lived experience, research on attachment and relationship diversity, and a justice-inflected approach to love, ethics and boundaries. You’ll find practical tools for communicating when jealousy or fear shows up, frameworks for crafting agreements that evolve, and a relational lens on power, consent, autonomy and integrity. Whether you’re solo, coupled, nested or embedded in an anarchic web of connections, this book meets you where you are. It’s also thoroughly inclusive of queer, kinky, ace, trans and nonbinary readers, and it addresses aspects of nonmonogamy that stretch well beyond romantic or sexual relationships.
Drawing on the best of the original while reimagining it for a changed world, The New More Than Two is a guide for anyone seeking love that is both brave and kind.
Author's Note
Foreword
Eve’s Preface and Acknowledgements
Andrea’s Preface and Acknowledgements
Introduction
Part 1: Laying Your Foundation
1: Choosing Nonmonogamy
2: Finding Your Compass (or, Don’t Be Mean)
3: Abuse
Part 2: A Nonmonogamy Toolkit
4: Tending Your Self
5: Nurturing Your Relationships
6: Communication Pitfalls
7: Communication Strategies
8: Befriending the Green-Eyed Monster
Part 3: Nonmonogamous Frameworks
9: Boundaries
10: Rules and Agreements
11: Hierarchy and Primary/Secondary Polyamory
12: Veto Arrangements
13: Empowered Relationships
14: Practical Nonmonogamy Agreements
Part 4: The Nonmonogamous Reality
15: How Nonmonogamous Relationships Are Different
16: Opening from a Couple
17: Mono/Poly Relationships
18: Finding Partners
19: Life in the Polycule
20: Sex, Pleasure, Risk and Health
21: Relationship Transitions
The Future of Nonmonogamy
Afterword
Glossary
Notes
Resources
Index